(Closed) Help! We can’t decide on how to dress the men! Casual Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1645 posts
Bumble bee

Why does he not wanna wear a suit? Even when a wedding is “casual” it’s not. It’s still a wedding, and you should wear something you don’t wear everyday. 

Do we go parading around in long white dresses everyday? NO. So it’s fair to expect your Fiance to look just as nice. What about a nice linen suit? It’s along the lines of what you both want.

This one is way over your price point, but it’s the first thing I saw when I hit up google, and it’s the idea I was looking for. Something light like that, but perhaps with an open collar underneath and unbuttoned jacket. The casual he wants and the dressy you want. 

I vote no to dockers and white shirt. Cause then you look like this guy:

Edit: I really wanted a pic of Dwight in a white shirt and khaki pants. But as many times as he’s worn those on the show, there are no pictures of it on the internet.

Post # 4
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with MissHoneyBun!  I think it’s only fair for him to dress up at least some… I don’t think it looks right for you to have on a gown and the BMs in dresses with them in everyday Dockers & a white shirt.  Time to grow up and put on a suit.  Just my .02….

Post # 5
46600 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think the bride in a traditional dress dictates that the men must wear suits. Look at all the destination weddings where the groom and groomsmen are in linen pants and shirts and they look fabulous. I think there have already been many changes in the dress code for weddings and there will be many more.


 khaki pants, white shirt and suspenders would give a casual with attitude look

here’s a cute look with the vests you mentioned

groom in suit-groomsmen not


From http://www.overstock.com

maybe a vest set  for the groomsmen $34

Ferrecci Men's Four-piece Vest Set

 dockers less than $50 

Geoffrey Beene Men's Flat-front Dress Pants

or Geoffrey Beene dress pants  $37


this suit for the groom $103

Caravalli Men's 3-piece Vested Brown Suit

Post # 6
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This will probably be the minority view, but…let him wear what he feels best in.  You wouldn’t like it if he told you what kind of dress you had to wear, right?  As long as whatever he wears fits well and is pressed, he will look sharp.  Ditto the groomsmen.

Post # 7
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I Personally feel it is important to let him be comfortable and have a say in expecially what he wants to wear.

We got married on an usually hot 99 degree day outside and  had a semi formal wedding my husband had said a million times NO SUIT for him His is big tall and felt like he looked wierd in suits and was worried about being too hot.

I felt they all looked perfectly fine. We did Black Pants White shirts and Black  ties. We even told our pastor just basic black and white as well as my dad( we left them pick their own ties … they chose ones to go in the color scheme). We set my husband apart with a really nice Black & purple printed tie and a full back vest.  While my husband bought really nice custom tailored pants A nice shirt & tie (from a mens store) we had to order an  ex long tie to fit him he is 6ft 7in and I couldnt find a matching tie for them so we went with an all black printed tie for the groomsmen ….. I provided the tie and we  let the groomsmen wear whatever of thier choosing as long as it was nice “clean pressed ”  Black pants &  white shirt  … My girls wore little black dresses

They even showed up all having their sleeves rolled up (which was unexpected to me) because it was unusually hot and I actually loved the way it looked

I appologize for not having a better picture  I dont have not one of my bridal party on here but we wiped our harddrive a while back and all our pictures are on an external in our safe i only have the few I had posted before on here


Here is a (bad far away  pic that really doesnt show much but shows how it kinda looks)

I posted these pictures just because I think even in such a nice classic (somewhat formal shot) I feel my husband still looks well put together even without the suit  all the while being comfortable and “cooler”



Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee

I agree with mightywombat: and FutureMrs.Harless:, let him wear what he wants to wear, it’s his day too, and you want him to be as happy a possible. You want him to feel good in what he’s wearing so he can focus on the day. How would you feel on your wedding day if you didn’t like your dress so much? My FH is choosing what the men wear, they’ll be wearing grey pants, white shirts rolled up sleeves, grey vests, and loafers, maybe ties he doesn’t know yet

Post # 9
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was just thinking and this is Just my opinion (so it probably doesnt count for much But) I was looking and typing all of that out thinking…… HMMM Honestly I can even remember what kind of shoes my groomsmen wore. I think you are stressing over it way to much honestly I think as long as they look well put together & thier Colors match ( like all the same khaki color)  it wont matter much at all, you probably wont even notice that stuff as much as you think you will.

 I never told my groomsmen what kind of shoes to wear and I just told my bridesmaids to wear something cute and comfortable…  I really think one of My Groomsmen might have had on black DC skater shoes  I honestly only know what shoes my bridesmaids had on because we have a shoe shot but it took me a mintue when i first saw it to match up shoes with people.  And my bridesmaids shoes were all over the place but they all looked cute. We have one girl in black ballet flats  One in basic black flipflops, one in a black heel. I have on black and white giraffe print peep toes and my Maid/Matron of Honor had on purple strappy heel. And my daughter had on black and cork Wedges & I thought the mix was adorable and showed off everyones personalities. 



Post # 11
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

let them wear whatever they want.  It’s casual.  let go a little. 

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