Caterer: $3500 – CANCEL, you may lose your deposit, but that’s a lot of money left to go! If you lose your deposit, see if they can change to just have appetisers using the money from your deposit.
Beer and wine: $1000 – CANCEL, just have punch or ask people to BYOB.
Wedding dress alterations: $200 – Should be ok, since its already in the process of.
Fiance Suit: $200 – Any way he can go with a cheaper option?
Plane tickets: $500 – Call the airline & see if you can cancel & what the pentalty would be. If you’re just visiting, gas shouldn’t be that much to get there & back. DH & I drove 12 hours STRAIGHT after our honeymoon, so no need to sleep in a hotel. We left really early & I would have taken turns driving, but he wouldn’t have it. We made maybe 2 or 3 stops & that was just for food, or to get gas & he had an energy drink to help. Its doable. Gas will be MUCH cheaper when you’re not moving. Figure out the miles roundtrip, divide by MPG your car gets & multiply that by the cost of gas per gallon & that should be less than $500!
what we’ve paid for:
Wedding dress: $900 – ok.
Shoes: $150 – Try to return them & then just wear shoes you already own.
Save the dates: $300 – ok.
Invitations: $500 – ok.
Postage: $300 – ok (yea postage was like the most expensive thing about invites for us, it was kinda crazy how it all adds up!)
Band: $1500 – Cancel! You don’t need a live band. Just have an ipod & some speakers, or even a computer hooked up to speakers. It’ll be MUCH cheaper. You could even buy an ipod & a speaker system for it & it would still be much cheaper!
Cupcakes: $500 – Cancel if you can. If you lose your deposit, than see if they can make less cupcakes for the same cost as the deposit was. Then get COSTCO sheetcakes. I had 4 & only used 3 & it fed about 200 people. It was like $40 for all the sheetcakes, so that should help you there.
Tables, chairs, table cloths, silverware, plates: $2400 – I think you posed earlier that you’re kinda stuck with most of this. Cancel as much as you can. If its all from the same place, see if they’ll let you lower your package. You don’t NEED table cloths, you can just wash the tables off when you’re done. We only had 2 tables, 1 for the cakes & 1 for the punch & cups. Everyone just sat in chairs.
Wedding favors: $150 – Cancel or return if possible. If you DIY, you may be “stuck” with them. You could list them on CL?
Lights (for outdoor reception): $500 – Try to cut back here. Do you NEED lights?! Can you cut back or do without them? What time of day is your wedding? Will it be light enough without them?
Candles & Votives: $100 – Cancel/return these. Its ok if you don’t have them. No one is going to be upset because there weren’t candles :).