- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So glad to hear that things are working out!! :o)
So glad to hear that things are working out!! :o)
I would never have had the courage to even TRY to ask them about post dated checks, payment plans, etc, if it wasn’t for some of the encouragement on here. I’m so grateful things will work out.
My Fiance and I talked about our predicament all week, came up with a plan, called vendors, cut out some things, came up with stuff to sell on CL, nixed our honeymoon, decided to use our honeyfund to pay off previous debt….
All thanks to the bees. Although some were harsh and just yelled at me through their computer screen, others were extremely helpful and I sincerely appreciate it.
I’m glad to hear things are working out for you, but honestly I’m still concerned for you. You are counting an October egg before it hatches which is AFTER your wedding. I really do hope this works out for you, but honey, this is really some poor financial judgement on your part, especially since you’re still only focused on the commission magically coming in and I don’t see where you mention you being willing to work more to make more money. My intention is to be HELPFUL so here are some things that may help.
1) I had a big Texas wedding too, and though you think they will, all 350 STILL won’t show, I’d cut another 50 out your count to the caterer.
2) Post dated checks are still valid. It doesn’t matter what the date says, if the vendor chooses to cash it, the bank will allow, no matter what is says. Be sure you trust your vendors to fulfill their agreement
3) More costs are going to arise. car rentals or gas. service fees and tips. even the baggage fees for your luggage. you should still do some combing through of your budget
4) Of your 400 guests, there’s got to be some man from whom your honey can borrow a suit. Per point number 3, you’re going to need those extra funds.
If at all possible, one of you could pick up a second job? Even working like fifteen hours a week might be enough to put you over the top if you stick it all into savings.
soooo happy this worked out!!! phew!!!
so will the difference be enough to cover the balance? how close will it get you?
what a happy ending!!
I am glad it worked out for you, however I would be cautious with the post dated checks as others have mentioned.
And FWIW, I have no debt and about 20 months of expenses saved in the bank account beyond what I need to pay for law school. Just in response to your comment about whether all of us had debt and such.
Wow! I only just came across this post and wanted to wish you a happy future and the best of luck. I am astonished by some of the cruel comments posted. With all due respect, here was a bride to be looking for some quick tips and advice, not criticism. I think we should all take a second and reconsider before we jump to judge another person based on a few lines of text. Hope there are good things coming your way and I’m glad it looks like everything will work out in the end.
Obviously, no one can know exactly what the OPs situation is, but based on what she posted I think the people who were advising her to consider re-evaluating her spending habits were making very valid points.
Yes, I certainly agree with some of the advice given for sure. I guess I’m just trying to think of how I would feel when it came to some of the extra comments. For example, I will have a very nice wedding band because it will be passed down to me from my deceased grandmother. If anyone were to happen to see a picture of that wedding band and make judgements about me and my money choices without knowing the whole story I would feel horrible. That’s all I was saying. It’s easy to judge but sometimes there are more things that need to be considered. As I mentioned, I totally agree with some of the big picture advice and whatnot, I just wish a few of the posters didn’t jump in with such harsh comments when the story behind them may not be known. All I’m saying is I’m glad everything will work out and I think it’s unfair to judge so quickly sometimes.
I wish I could just delete this whole thread. Most people ended up being very judgemental and certainly more harsh than called for. I was upset and I just wanted some advice and opinions on what others would cut out of their wedding if they were in the same situation.
Only one person replied that they have no debt out of almost 200. Most felt it neccessary to cast the first stone like they are debt free with tons of money in savings, no credit cards or student loans and own a home free and clear.
Next thing I know everyone is telling me that I’m financially irresponsible and deep in debt (which we aren’t and I mentioned that over and over) and I need counseling and they are judging my other posts before this one, judging my ring and telling me that I posted this thread asking for money (SERIOUSLY?!) etc. All I said is that we were trying to figure out how and what we would downsize to be able to pay for our wedding.
So we took on some debt for our move across the country, and we took out a couple of pay day loans, and we paid cash for my ring a few months ago, and we paid cash for 2/3 of our wedding so far… and all I asked for was some advice on how to downsize the last 1/3 of my wedding.
Seriously, I REALLY wish I could delete this thread and my account. And I honestly don’t want to post on weddingbee anymore.
I’m glad it worked out for you. And I agree, with you. I’m sure VERY few posters on the be have 8-20 months of savings, I damn sure don’t. Many are struggling to get by. Stick around I know this thread was a hard pill to swallow. You can ask for the thread to be closed since the issue was resolved.
I am glad you sorted things out, debts do have a habit of popping up unexpectedly sometimes, and i know this for a fact, as i have been there more times than i care to admit. and for this reason, i planned my own wedding 15 months out so i had time to pay things off in affordable chunks…..but not everyone can do that, and i am not suggesting that that is what YOU should have done, its just what i did because of debt situations in the past.
i didnt post in this thread before now as i could see it was gettting anti.
i WAS going to, and my only suggestions would have been,
just supply champagne and then have a cash bar….or
would it be possible to postpone the wedding for a couple of months? that would have been a lot of work moving everything along, but it might have been a solution.
but theres no need for that now and i am happy you have things sorted out….
And i fail to see what your ring has to do with anything to be honest???
just want to say I’m so glad everything worked out in the end!!! 🙂
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