(Closed) HELP! We can’t pay what’s owed on our wedding

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 197
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So glad to hear that things are working out!! :o)

Post # 199
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m glad to hear things are working out for you, but honestly I’m still concerned for you.  You are counting an October egg before it hatches which is AFTER your wedding.  I really do hope this works out for you, but honey, this is really some poor financial judgement on your part, especially since you’re still only focused on the commission magically coming in and I don’t see where you mention you being willing to work more to make more money.  My intention is to be HELPFUL so here are some things that may help.

1) I had a big Texas wedding too, and though you think they will, all 350 STILL won’t show, I’d cut another 50 out your count to the caterer.

2) Post dated checks are still valid.  It doesn’t matter what the date says, if the vendor chooses to cash it, the bank will allow, no matter what is says.  Be sure you trust your vendors to fulfill their agreement

3) More costs are going to arise.  car rentals or gas.  service fees and tips.  even the baggage fees for your luggage.  you should still do some combing through of your budget

4) Of your 400 guests, there’s got to be some man from whom your honey can borrow a suit.  Per point number 3, you’re going to need those extra funds.

Post # 201
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

If at all possible, one of you could pick up a second job? Even working like fifteen hours a week might be enough to put you over the top if you stick it all into savings.

Post # 202
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

soooo happy this worked out!!! phew!!! 

so will the difference be enough to cover the balance?  how close will it get you?

what a happy ending!!

Post # 203
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am glad it worked out for you, however I would be cautious with the post dated checks as others have mentioned. 

And FWIW, I have no debt  and about 20 months of expenses saved in the bank account beyond what I need to pay for law school. Just in response to your comment about whether all of us had debt and such. 

Post # 204
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow! I only just came across this post and wanted to wish you a happy future and the best of luck. I am astonished by some of the cruel comments posted. With all due respect, here was a bride to be looking for some quick tips and advice, not criticism. I think we should all take a second and reconsider before we jump to judge another person based on a few lines of text. Hope there are good things coming your way and I’m glad it looks like everything will work out in the end.

Post # 205
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Llava: I really think most of the bees were trying to give advice, big picture advice. I think its east to have wedding blinders on and not sometimes look at life post wedding, it seemed like most of the bees were just trying to give the OP some perspective.

Obviously, no one can know exactly what the OPs situation is, but based on what she posted I think the people who were advising her to consider re-evaluating her spending habits were making very valid points.

Post # 206
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes, I certainly agree with some of the advice given for sure. I guess I’m just trying to think of how I would feel when it came to some of the extra comments. For example, I will have a very nice wedding band because it will be passed down to me from my deceased grandmother. If anyone were to happen to see a picture of that wedding band and make judgements about me and my money choices without knowing the whole story I would feel horrible. That’s all I was saying. It’s easy to judge but sometimes there are more things that need to be considered. As I mentioned, I totally agree with some of the big picture advice and whatnot, I just wish a few of the posters didn’t jump in with such harsh comments when the story behind them may not be known. All I’m saying is I’m glad everything will work out and I think it’s unfair to judge so quickly sometimes.

Post # 207
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@mhackney21: I do taxes and have a question about your move…since it sounds like it was before January, did you write off the cost off the move on FIs taxes? BECAUSE YOU NEED TO!!!!!! If you move more than fifty miles for work, you get to take the cost of moving as a tax deduction which will increase your tax refund (assuming you get one) and if you didn’t do this on your taxes you can and NEED to ammend them in order to receive an additional refund for the cost of the move. It won’t be the entire amount, but it could and would help you out. If you have any questions about this go in to any liberty tax office and they will help you 🙂

Post # 209
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m glad it worked out for you. And I agree, with you. I’m sure VERY few posters on the be have 8-20 months of savings, I damn sure don’t.  Many are struggling to get by. Stick around I know this thread was a hard pill to swallow. You can ask for the thread to be closed since the issue was resolved.

Post # 210
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am glad you sorted things out,  debts do have a habit of popping up unexpectedly sometimes,  and i know this for a fact,  as i have been there more times than i care to admit. and for this reason,  i planned my own wedding 15 months out so i had time to pay things off in affordable chunks…..but not everyone can do that,  and i am not suggesting that that is what YOU  should  have done, its just what i did because of debt situations in the past. 

i didnt post in this thread before now as i could see it was gettting anti. 

i WAS  going to,  and my only suggestions would have been, 

just supply champagne and then have a cash bar….or

would it be possible to postpone the wedding for a couple of months?    that would have been a lot of work moving everything along,  but it might have been a solution. 

but theres no need for that now and i am happy you have things sorted out….

And i fail to see what your  ring has to do with anything  to be honest??? 

Post # 211
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

just want to say I’m so glad everything worked out in the end!!! 🙂

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