(Closed) HELP! We can’t pay what’s owed on our wedding

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Don’t take out more loans though! That will make this whole situation even worse 🙁

Post # 34
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What vendors/items do you still owe money to? You should start making calls asap to explain the situation and see if they can wait until 2 weeks/1month after the wedding for the balance of your payment.  Also, go through your old jewlery and “cash for gold” (or something similar) any broken jewlrey, sweet 16 era stuff you will never use – it is good for your wallet and recycling! 

Post # 35
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are lights a rental or did you buy them? Can you pre-sell them to another bride then ship them out the week after your wedding?

Post # 36
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2022 - City, State

Yeah I agree do some PT work (I picked up tutoring for the wedding).  Go on craigslist and see what type of jobs you can do and start getting money right away.  If you have any really close friends or family and you’re worried you won’t be approved fro a loan you can get them to co-sign or take out the loan for you. 

Post # 38
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4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You decided 3 months ago to have a wedding and you sent out save the dates and invitations?

Well the past is the past.

Beer & wine- drop that and turn it into a dry wedding? Or just do champagne?

 

Is the suit rented? Are the alterations already done?

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

All I can say, is go through everything, line by line and start hacking. We cut our original $10,000 budget down to $2500. We cut tranportation completely out of our budget, we decided we don’t need a limo and we can drive ourselves. Instead of a professional DJ my nephew (who has worked weddings before) is going to DJ for us as a gift. I also have a friend doing our photography. We went from a 4 tier cake to a 2 tier and sheet cake-that saved a few hundred right there! I also am going with the Sam’s Club Collection flowers, which are 1/3 the price of the flowers I was intending to get through a florist. The most difficult decision was cutting alcohol. But, we decided to have a dry reception, then if anyone was interested, an after party at a local bowling alley with a great bar, for the partiers in the crowd. I am DIYing as much as possible. I am using the tablecloths already provided by the hall, and not going with any chaircovers. I am doing my own centerpieces and aisle decorations. I also found an online source for my dress, where I can get it $300 cheaper. My guys tux is free with the rentals of all of his groomsmens tuxes, with the deal we got, so that saved us over a $100 right there. 

Everyone wants their dream wedding, but at the end of the day you do have to be realistic, and realize that really, the only thing you need, to get married, is a groom and an officiant. Everything else is just fluff. Even if you have to cut a lot of things out of your wedding, it is STILL going to be special and wonderful, because at the end of the day you’ll have yourmarried your dream guy, and that is what is most important.

Post # 41
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Have a dry wedding. Work out a payment plan with caterer.  Nix the registry; Ask for money gifts.

Post # 42
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Can you return your shoes? They were $150 and I bet you have a nice pair of metallic shoes already (or you can borrow a pair). The shoes might not even show under your dress.

Post # 44
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mhackney21: Honestly, I would take out the alcohol.  That is a quick $1,000 right there.  It is not unheard of to have a dry wedding, and honestly I wouldn’t care as a guest (I know there are some who will disagree with me).  But I would rather have my wedding happen.

I would also see if you can offer some different (less expensive) meal options with the caterer.  Or take out an appetizer, etc.

Post # 45
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496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mhackney21: I second the requests for you to tell us what is left to pay for. If you share this, we will be more likely to be able to help. Even for services you’ve already paid for, you may want to decide which ones you could conceivably do without (could you do a potluck style wedding instead of having it catered, for example? That would save you tons!) and put yourself at the mercy of your vendors. You may be surprised at how understanding they will be–some of them might let you back out of your contract without paying the deposit, you never know. It’s worth a shot. Good luck!

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely agree with Aubergold about having a dry wedding. It’s nice to serve alcohol to your guests, but if you can’t afford it when you’re looking at the bottom line, nix it.

SO got our plane tickets from North Carolina to California and back for only $150 each by naming his own price on Priceline… might be worth looking into. 

We were pretty broke, so we decided not to have a fancy dinner and went with gourmet sandwiches with sides of fruit, pasta salad, and veggies. It brought our catering bill for 150 people from $4000 to $1500…

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