Post # 1
Ladies, I need to appeal to your expertise! My fiance and I have five—count ’em, FIVE—toasts lined up for our wedding reception (my dad, my stepdad, matron of honor (my sister), best man (groom’s brother), and our best friend). We want them all to speak, and have told them all to keep it short, but the question is…
How do we structure this??
Our coordinator is suggesting that after cocktail hour (where there will be passed hors d’oeuvres) and the first dance etc., that we all sit down for the first two toasts, then eat our first course, and then have the last three toasts.
Seems like a decent idea since we don’t want people to be hungry and cranky. BUT I worry it’ll feel disjointed, and that people will be like “ugh MORE toasts?!” after they’ve eaten.
Post # 3
I think that idea sounds fine, but definitely make sure people keep them short.
Post # 4
We had four 2-minute toasts that were given once guests were seated, before dinner was served. We did make sure there was an antipasto board at each table for guests to snack on while the speeches happened.
Post # 5
We had five toasts also. We did the same. Grand entrance, first dance, two toasts (our dads), salad served, then the last three toasts. It went well, not too long thanks to the break in between. Since you have a cocktail hour, your guests shouldn’t be too hungry coming into the reception.
Post # 6
As a wedding photographer…eh, hem….they are never short…never.
I had one that about 6 people stood up – lasted 45 minutes. Not kidding. As much as I love listening to speaches and learning more about my clients, it got really boring after about 5 minutes. Seriously though, be strict with them. Caters get irritated too because food is typically ready to be served and they don’t like the food sitting too long.
Post # 7
OMG GIRL I have 6!! lets hope our guests dont hate us, I want all the people who are speeking involved, and only really 2 will be speeches, the rest are toasts.