Post # 1
We booked our venue as soon as we figured out our GL & date. Scrolling through feeds on here I realized we booked for Mothers Day. We definitely don’t want children at the reception. Should we move the time of the ceremony/reception to an evening affair so guests still have the beginning of the day with their mothers/ children or scratch the date all together? Most of our guests are local.
Post # 2
I personally chose to avoid a date to avoid Father’s Day. I know many people on here will say its not a big deal and I don’t think you would lose any of your most important guests, but I think you would end up losing some of the outliers – the coworkers, distance cousins, etc. If that is ok with you, stick with that date. To me, I wanted to make it as easy as possible for all my guests to attend, so I avoided any holiday where people may have set plans. I know my family has a yearly cookout on Mother’s Day. If I was invited to a wedding, I may skip the cookout but only if it was a super close friend.
Post # 3
Krises: Ok I see what you mean. Ahhh this is tricky. Should I add an insert to my invite then to remind people that this is Mother’s Day? Id rather them say no from the jump then say yes and not show because they didn’t realize it was Mother’s Day.
Post # 4
Really this is going to depend on how big a deal your guests make of Mother’s Day. In my social circle, we all take our moms out the night before (not as a group or anything, just everyone goes for a nice dinner with Mom on Saturday instead of Sunday) because restaurants are so crowded on Mother’s Day. So it would be absolutely no big deal to go to a Mother’s Day wedding in my circle, even if it started early in the day. I think you need to talk to some of your guests, especially those with children, and get their point of view rather than seeing what the general opinion on weddingbee is. You could also throw a casual Mother’s Day Eve dinner as your rehearsal and invite the locals as well as the out-of-towners so that the Mothers could celebrate (you’d have to share the spotlight with them but that shouldn’t be a hardship for most folks).
Post # 5
I would go even though I have children. We usually celebrate by going out to breakfast/brunch or the kids making a special breakfast at home.
Post # 6
Totally depends on the guests and what they do for mothers day. I would attend a wedding since Mothers Day isnt a whole day affair, my sister on the other hand has a full blown schedule for that day with her children so she wouldnt go. I think this whole date thing may cast a dark shadow over you because youll be worried about people blowing it off the whole time. For your sanity and piece of mind I would really try to just book another date.
Post # 7
Horseradish: I want to take my guests into consideration but I’m sure asking those with children are already going to feel some type of way that we don’t want children there regardless of the date. Im going to ask a few today though to see the general consensus. Hopefully we can move forward with this date.
Post # 8
danayunglee: Are you doing a wedding website? I would include the information there instead.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
danayunglee: Since you’re not inviting children, I would probably change the date. Are you also doing a Sunday wedding (Mother’s Day is a Sunday isn’t it?)
You’re working with two strikes against you by doing Mother’s day and a Sunday if so.
I don’t have kids, but if it was a friend, I would feel bad that I wouldn’t be spending Mother’s day with my mom… we usually have a family BBQ
Post # 10
Krises: I wasn’t sure if I should but now we’re definitly going to make one. Thanks
Post # 11
I probably wouldn’t attend a wedding on a holiday, espcially a family-orientated holiday and the whole family isn’t invited.
If you decide to keep the date I would definately make note of it somehow since mothers day is one of the holidays that always has a different date. I usually only remember it’s mothers/fathers day a week or so in advance.
Post # 12
missamysmiles: For me, I probably wouldn’t care but I don’t live in the same city as my mom so I don’t usually see her. If I had small children, I would probably feel weird leaving them home on mothers day.
Post # 13
This is a tough choice.. it really depends on your circle, though.
My circle would probably be okay with it, most of us get gifts well in advance of mothers day, and don’t really do anything the day of because eateries are so busy with people.
I would normally advise to stay away from holidays, but I don’t consider mothers day an actual “holiday”, like one where people would travel and things.
Post # 14
If you have a Sunday wedding, moving it later is going to lose you more guests than gain guests because it is mother’s day. I would look at what your social circle does for mother’s day in general and decide. For us, no one celebrates it other than those with really young children, and normally that is just because the kids made them a picture. It is not an entire day affair.
Even with kids, I would attend a wedding on Mothers day, but I would not attend a Sunday wedding where dinner was served later than 5:00. Maybe if I was close to the couple and had the time to burn, I would ask off Monday and attend something later, but DH probably wouldn’t, and we would want to head home and not be impolite by 8:30 at the latest.
Post # 15
danayunglee: my conflict would be more that it’s a sunday wedding and less that it’s mother’s day. i don’t know of many people who celebrate mother’s day into the night, haha. usually it’s brunch or lunch, or dinner the night before.
but if you’re having a child free, late wedding…as a guest my first thought is not “awe but i wanted to spend the day with mom!” my first thought is “dude what the heck i have to work on monday!”
if you do opt to have it on the sunday, i would be sure to remind guests on your website. maybe you could toast all the moms, grandmas, and mother figures at the reception. if you have the option though, could you push it to a saturday? i think that would let you have the most attendance.