Post # 1
I need some advice on etiquette regarding setting your wedding date when there is another member of your family who is also engaged. My fiance proposed to me in April 2012, and we set our date for June 7th, 2013, and we are having a destination wedding. In August 2012 my fiance’s brother proposes to his girlfriend. They set their date for May 25th, 2013 (13 days before our wedding). I am truly upset over how close our dates are set, and my fiance and his family think I’m overreacting and I was even called “Bridezilla.” It doesn’t help that my future-sister-in-law has a similar style in mind for her wedding, so I feel like the weddings are so similar. Am I overreacting, or is there a moral code of wedding date etiquette?
Post # 3
It is a bit much since it’s SO close to your wedding, but I’d try to just see it as the beginning of a two-week long family celebration. I don’t think there’s any standard etiquette for this. But yeah, I’d feel slightly annoyed if I were you. I just don’t think you stand to gain anything by holding a grudge, and trying to put a positive spin on it will help you enjoy everything more.
Post # 4
I’d be upset too, but really there’s nothing you can do about it but suck it up and keep all of your plans for your wedding super secret.
Post # 5
I’m with your fiance on this. Her wedding is her wedding, your wedding is your wedding and unless they’re on the same day, there is no problem. Why you’re upset is beyond me. However, if you don’t want your wedding that close to hers, then change your date.
Post # 6
What can you do? Suck it up or post pone. My sister did the same thing. I did post pone my wedding date, with reasons that I wanted to enjoy her wedding without the stress of having to plan my own 🙂 But if yours is a destination wedding it is possible everything is already planned, and cannot be changed. It will only bother you if you let it…xx
Post # 7
@Kimy: Thanks everyone. I really did need an outsiders perpective on this, its been stressing me out. I am still annoyed, but they are family and I will love them regardless. I did try to push our date back a couple weeks, since it is a destination wedding and I wanted more time for prepping, but it can’t be moved, plus we’d be pushing hurricane season. @kimy @maryaz @hma812 thank you for your kind advice.