- 9 years ago
I really need help – my wedding is in 6 weeks and I don’t have a dress. I had a dress – my H2B was with me when I found it because it was a total spur of the moment purchase at Max Azria (we weren’t in there to buy a dress but found it, both loved it, so we bought it). It’s a gorgeous, non-traditional dress, very Angelina Jolie (she wore it to an awards ceremony)but not very "bridal".
Since then, he’s seen me try it on a few times when I’ve needed an opinion on shoes, etc. I don’t live near friends or family and so he’s usually the only one around at those crucial times! This is also a 2nd wedding for me, his 1st, so I haven’t been "superstitious".
Well, a few days ago I got a weird feeling that perhaps I should have a more traditional dress. Since he’s seen the dress, I was worried there wouldn’t be a "wow" factor when he saw me at the ceremony (we’re getting married abroad in Scotland at a castle ruin, followed by an elegant wedding dinner for 36 at a boutique hotel). Then last night, I had to try it on again to get his opinion on the shoes I finally purchased (I posted about that a few days ago) and I suddenly realized that the dress had become just another dress – like I was preparing for someone else’s wedding!
We talked about it and while he urged me to wear it if it was "the one" and repeatedly said how amazing it looked on me, he also admitted that there was a part of him that wished he hadn’t ever seen it on me. I feel the same way – I no longer feel like a bride when I put it on. That, coupled with the fact that getting married abroad and this being my 2nd marriage (although I’ve been divorced for 10 years and have finally found "the one") has resulted in many friends and family overlooking the fact that I am a bride so I haven’t had any showers or other traditional pre-wedding events.
I want to feel like a bride – this marriage is the most important thing in the world to me and I want H2B to have that special moment when he sees me for the 1st time in my dress but now I don’t have one and it’s only 6 weeks away! Any suggestions? I’ve looked at Nordstrom.com, JCrew, etc, but haven’t seen anything that strikes me. I don’t want a big traditional dress – I’m much more of an understated but elegant bride. I love some of the WTOO dresses but I don’t know if they are an option in 6 weeks or how much they cost.
I’d like to spend under $1000 and am not opposed to a gently worn dress. I don’t want strapless because I have nothing to put in it (34AA) and nothing with a crinoline. This was my old dress, so perhaps it will give you girls an idea of my style (it’s #34, style #FAM6E507): http://www.maxazria.com/spring2009/
Any and all suggestions for lines, stores, etc. that can get me something quick would be awesome. I don’t really want to go to David’s Bridal but I will if needed. THANKS!