- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I know excatly how you feel. I started with 1 maid of honor and 2 bridesmaids. After being stood up by my BFF several times I asked her to step down. She did and it broke our friendship up:(. Then I asked another girl I knew to be a bridesmaid and of course she said yes. Her best friend then had her feelings hurt because I did not ask her to be a bridesmaid. I did not know the girl very well but I didnt want her feelings hurt so I asked her if she to wanted to be a bridesmaid. So I had 3 bridesmaids and my Maid/Matron of Honor. One of my other BM could not get it togather she kept missing all the appointments to pick out the bm dresses. We had set appointments 3 times for this girl. Then she had the nerve to get nasty about things and said some mean hurtful things so I told her that she should not stand with someone if she feels that way so I gave her the option to step down. Now the 2 bms that I have right now are the 2 bestfriends and anytime I have something that I need help with like invites, wedding favors and stuff they are not around. It makes me mad because I have paid for 2 dresses each for them because I changed my colors, I was going to have thier kids help so I bought their clothes and I cant get any help from them. I have spent about 400 on their clothes and they dont seem to care enough to offer to help. They hang out with each other all the time and they can make time to go over to their neighbors to drink and hang out but cant come over and help. I only live half a block away. I feel like a third wheel and I am not quite sure what to do. It seems anytime we do something that benifits them they are willing to be right there but when it dosen’t they are no where around. They have had their dresses since Feb and still have not taken them in to get altered. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do? I am now 10 weeks away from my vow renewal/ wedding and I dont know what to do.