(Closed) Help!! Wedding Planning apathy? Or is it sheer confusion?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Sounds like you two should
    Elope : (0 votes)
    Semi-elope/have a micro-wedding of less than 10 guests : (2 votes)
    50 %
    Keep thinking about having a small wedding of 40 or so guests... put some feelers out : (2 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would start by looking at things that are less wedding-specific, like venues and caterers.  

    Have you thought about a wedding timeline?  Do you want summer/fall/winter/spring/don’t care?

    Have you considered who you want there as you get married?

    I would look at those things and save the dress/details for later.  

    Post # 5
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    2662 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    First of all, you sound a little overwhelmed by the possible choices. Not in an anxious kind of way, but like you said…don’t know where to start. You said you want a meaningful, symbolic kind of ceremony event. That’s a great start. I would suggest letting all of the other details go for a while and focus on clarifying the image of the ceremony you want. You can start by just looking at you and Fiance at the altar/front/etc to feel a tone then start “panning out” so to speak to take in a little more of the picture when pieces become clearer.

    Don’t worry about the guest list, the specific food, or anything that isn’t solely about you, your Fiance, and what y’all want for each other right now. The other details will come together in the right time. 

    Hopefully that helps. Oh and lastly and most importantly…congratulations!!

    Post # 6
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Congratulations on your engagement! =) You have the rest of your engagement to think about the details.  Now you can focus on you and your Fiance and just soaking in the start of your next chapter together.

    I do completely understand how you feel though.  Fiance says I have monthly wedding breakdowns lol.  Mainly because I envisioned a small, intimate wedding just like you but am ending up with a much larger one.

    My best piece of advice is to take your time making decisions.  You don’t need to know your date or venue or even city right away.  Because I was so focused on planning this or deciding that on a certain date, I lost sight of the type of wedding I really wanted.  It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and make rash decisions (like guestlist) that you may later regret.

    Seriously, enjoy this time while you can!  Because the planning part is really not so fun (at least not for me) lol.  And the more you get “settled” into being engaged, certain decisions will be much easier.

    Also, apracticalwedding.com is a great resource

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