Post # 1
So my wedding is in a few months and my Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing me a bridal shower at the begining of next month. I have been told time and time again that the point of the shower is so that guests can “shower” the bride with gifts but I dont know what to do. My FH and I have not redgistered and are toying with the idea of not doing it at all. My Maid/Matron of Honor really wants me to redgister but Im not sure how to do that since we are only having 20 women at the shower. What do I do???
Post # 3
You should register somewhere just to give people ideas on what to give you. What about Target or Amazon? It’s very easy to put together a registry online.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@LovelyMandieB: Think of what you need and your favorite store to buy housewears from…. then go in and talk to them about registering! I promise you it is painless.
Post # 5
If you really don’t want to register, have your Maid/Matron of Honor have a theme to the shower-kitchen, barbecue, picnic, wine, date night etc. This gives the guests some guidance for gift buying.
Post # 6
If you don’t like the idea of people giving gifts, I think you can put something on the invites or something that says “in lieu of gifts, please make a donation” and then offer some charity organizations you like.
Post # 7
@julies1949: +1, may FI’s family also has “stock the bar parties” where people bring bottles of booze, mixers, glassware, etc.
Post # 8
I like julies1949’s idea!
Post # 9
If you really don’t want gifts then ask you Maid/Matron of Honor to turn it into a party or something in which gifts wouldn’t be the focal point. Bridal showers are to shower the bride with gifts.
Otherwise, provide some guidance through a theme or registry.
Post # 10
I highly advise that you register. If you don’t you will receive all kind of odd things you may not want, need, or like and may not be returnable. If you register somewhere like Bed Bath and Beyond you could returns/ exchange things if you decide you don’t like them.
You don’t even need to go in to the store to register. You could set it up online. Most people can always use some new sheets, towels, table linens. Also, even if you can’t imagine wanting nice china now, someday you may enjoy having it.
i have found that people like to buy gifts for showers and this way you have some control over what they buy for you.
Post # 11
We didn’t register. We don’t need anything, and if people give us odd things – that’s OK! We like odd things.
Stay strong. Yeah, a shower is about gifts, but most people are smart enough to muddle through and buy tea towels, or a kettle, or sheets, or what-have-you on their own.
Post # 12
I would agree with the poster that mentioned a charity rather than traditional gifts. We’ve had a couple of clients who asked their guests to donate to their favorite charity or animal shelter instead of traditional gifts.