Post # 1
A little bit of background: my engagement ring was custom-made in the Middle East when I first got engaged. It was done to my own design in very thick 18ct gold and we picked the stones ourselves in a gold souk during an impromptu visit (within 2 weeks of getting engaged!) to meet my FI’s parents and I was absolutely delighted with the result. I am hugely sentimental over this ring.
My problem? It’s too big for me. It actually did fit me when it was made but I’ve been unable to wear it for a while now which I was already fairly upset about. However, I figured I would eventually be able to resize it and everything would be ok. So I’ve been holding onto the fact that I will wear it again one day for months and months now.
No. Apparently you can only reduce a ring by so much before it’s just impossible. I’ve actually lost 80lbs since we got the ring and as a result have gone down a lot of ring sizes. I found out today that there is absolutely no chance whatsoever of being able to resize it for my now rather slender fingers.
I’m really quite heartbroken over it and I have no idea what to do. Should I just leave it as is and accept that I’ll never be able to wear it again? Should I try to get someone to melt it down and remake it, even though it would lose the special meaning behind where it was originally made? If it was remade, should I try and stick with the same design or get it toally redesigned as something different? Is it even financially viable to get it remade? Would I even still feel like it was the same ring my Fiance gave me? I’m so confused.
In a perfect world I would probably want the same design just smaller and lighter, then use the excess gold to make a wedding band (it’s very thick and heavy just now – there is plenty of gold in the current ring). That’s probably going to be outwith my budget, isn’t it?
What would you guys do? I just need some feedback and ideas on what options you would consider and any ideas you have on how I can sort all of this out. I really wanted to be able to wear it at my wedding but I don’t know if that’s going to happen now.
Post # 3
I’m a little bit confused… I’ve never heard that you can’t resize a ring to any size. What size is the ring you have now? What is your new ring size after you lost all of that weight?
Post # 4
I would go to a smaller jeweler who actually creates jewelry and talk to them. I don;t see any reason why it can;t be melted and recreated.
Post # 5
Can you put sizers in it? Like the little balls I see lots of bees have around here? I’ve never used those myself so I don’t know how many sizes smaller it can make it.
Post # 6
It’s a beautiful ring….I’d hate to see you melt it down. Could you get another ring and wear the original on a chain around your neck?
Post # 7
@Shaerena: If it were me I would keep it as it is and wear it around my neck and get a new ering, or just go with a wedding band.
Post # 8
Looks like it can be sized to me.
Post # 9
My grandmother got a little bar across the back of hers when she got older and her fingers were so thin…talk to a jeweler…one that makes jewelry not a chain store and they should be able to help.
Post # 10
They may not be able to size it down as much as she needs, because if you try to tighten the “circle” of the ring too much, it will cause the stone mounts to lose their shape and the stones will fall out.
I have another suggestion though, could they build up the INSIDE of the ring by adding gold to the bottom 1/2 on the inside, and thereby making the hole your finger goes through smaller?
Post # 11
Thanks to everyone that has taken the time to respond so far. I thought it might help if I asnwered some of the questions that have come up:
@mylittleviolett: I’ve been told that the problem with resizing is to do with the stone settings. When a ring is resized, they take a section out then stretch the rest of the ring round to close the gap. Doing this would also stretch the settings, which would leave the stones unsecure and likely to fall out. It can also affect the strength of the metal if the change is size is too extreme. In fact, if I got a band that fits me now, I could pass it through the middle of my e ring with room to spare.
@yellowshoe: I used temporary resizing inserts for months so I could keep wearing the ring. These can help make up the difference between a couple of sizes. I even got to the stage where I was wrapping a thick elastic band around the band of the ring to stop it slipping off and make it a tighter fit! Unfortunately, I’m down a very large number of ring sizes so it’s no longer an option.
@MissNoodles: This lady has it spot on! This isn’t the normal weightloss that most bride-to-be’s do. The change in my ring size has been quite phenomenal, so we’re not talking the normal “down a couple of sizes” here. I did ask about building up the thickness of the band, but apparently the change is just too drastic and I would end up with a crazy-thick ring so I’ve been told it’s not a realistic option.
I spoke to an actual jeweller today (not a normal chain store) which is how I found out that I don’t really have the option of resizing. I’m planning to meet with a different one soon for a second opinion and to discuss options. I’m very attached to this ring but I’m just not sure what options I should be (or want to be ) discussing.
Post # 12
@Shaerena: Well good luck with everything. I hope you get it worked out. It sounds like you may have to make another ring 🙁
Post # 13
yeah I’m also shocked you cant get it resized. But is your middle finger bigger then your ring finger? if so ask if they can resize it to that finger, you can still wear it, but just on your right hand now, and you can get another engagement ring for your wedding finger. Thats what i would do. Or melt it down and make another ring out of it. Sorry you cant wear it anymore =[
Post # 14
@mylittleviolett: My ring was too small (they made the wrong size accidentally!) and the jeweller said that’s good because there are limits to resizing a ring that is too large. A too-small ring is essentially stretched, but a too-large ring needs to be broken. So depending on the particular ring it may not actually be possible to resize down to fit the person’s finger.
Post # 15
i would take it to a few different jewellers to get many opinions before making a decision. if it cannot be sized, perhaps you can wear it on another finger and get a band for your ring finger.
congrats on the weight loss. good for you.
Post # 16
I would definitely get a few different opinions. Someone might be able to help you!
Otherwise, I think that ring would make a REALLY pretty lapel pin for a scarf or blazer. Had you considered something like that?