Post # 1
I just received a txt pic of my friend in the wedding dress she just ordered. It looks terrible on her! She has a great figure but this dress makes her look 20lbs heavier and pear shaped. She txt’d me a pic in her in her dress and said “it looks great doesn’t it?” I asked for more pics praying that it was just the angle and nope 20 pics later I realize she bought probably the only dress that DOESN’T work on her lovely figure. I am in a pickle. Do I tell her the truth so she can hopefully cancel her order? (She bought it 10 minutes ago.) Or do I congratulate her on finding a dress she loves?
She didn’t take anyone with her shopping. This is only the second store she has been to. This isn’t an alterations issue. This is a wrong dress for your body type issue. What is a friend to do?
Post # 3
Well I think that the most important thing in finding a wedding dress is finding one that you are confident in! If she feels like that then great. If it really looks as bad as you say, could it be bc its a sample and its to big or to small? Can you post the pic?
Post # 4
If she is that happy about it I would just reply with something like – Glad you found a dress you love!! and leave it at that. That way you’re not lying to her.
Post # 5
I guess it depends how close you are with her, but it kind of seems like she doesn’t want anyone’s opinion. I think if she feels beautiful in the dress and loves it so much that she bought it, perhaps its best not to say anything. But again, it depends on your relationship with her and her personality/how she would react to something like that (which you would know better than any of us).
Post # 6
Is she asking your opinion on it or just showing it off because she’s happy in it? If she’s asking your thoughts, maybe say it’s nice but offer to go dress shopping with her before she makes a final decision or something. If she’s telling you how happy she is with it then the best thing to do is keep quiet. If she feels good in it then that’s all that matters really. Plus if you tell her the truth she could end up feeling really hurt and self concious.
Post # 7
@organizedbride11: I wish it was that it was the wrong size but it fit her like a glove. It needs taken in like a half an inch at the bust nothing big. I so want to post the pic but that seems wrong to post someone’s pic without their knowledge and consent. I want her to look fabulous on her wedding day. She has got the best figure. I have always been envious but this dress is sooo wrong for her. I am not the type who because of envy would rejoice at her looking bad on her wedding day. I am afraid she will look at her wedding pics and say oh no what was I thinking.
Post # 8
@secondchances: Honestly, how would you feel if you got that exact response from you friend about your wedding dress. Perhaps just imagine your dress and then imagine your friend saying negative things about it. Would you feel happy that she told you? or insulted because this was something you had fallen in love with?
By the way – I’m not being catty or picky. I was just trying to put myself in that position with my wedding dress. Would you rather be told it looked awful? I honestly have no idea myself.
Post # 9
@skyeatnight: It is a good question and has made me really think. I would rather be told it looked awful on me then realize it when I got my pictures back. My friends don’t all agree with my dress choice because it is wild and that is okay. That is a personal preference thing. If my dress made me look like a cow I would want someone to smack some sense into me. No way do I want to look 20 lbs heavier after working so hard at thinning down and looking good. A true friend would tell you the truth. That is why my BM’s are my besties. They tell me if I need a different shade of lipstick, haircolor, and to never ever wear goldenrod again. :p
I think silk charmeuse might be the wrong fabric to make wedding dresses out of. Maybe I can just suggest canceling this order and having the dress made with a different fabric??
Post # 10
LOL one of my very good friends (who has AMAZING style) HATEs my dress… at first she was like umm…ive seen nicer but it is your choice….now she just kind of ignores my questions or any talk when it comes to the wedding! hahah. at first it realllly hurt me and effected me. I decided that is it im not getting it…but then i showed it to a couple of other good friends…they loved it just as much as I did.so I ordered it…when my mom later told me she thought my originally 3000$ enzoani dress looked cheap…it does not effect me AT ALL. I looooove my DRESS! haha. But…I am still hurt that my good friend is reacting and reacted this way…I wish she would just be supportive. I hated HER wedding dress, and I never said anything! looool.
Moral of the story…she bought, she liked it. if she has doubts and its not too late to change the dress and she asks you again for your opinion then tell her what u think…if it is too late…make the best of it! whatever it’s done and she loves it! :):) You are a sweet friend to care so much bout what to say!
Post # 11
Be supportive – if she loves it, then that’s all that matters 🙂 We preach it everyday here in the Hive.
Post # 12
I think if you want to say something, then you have to be careful about not hurting her feelings. Although, if she already bought it, then it may be useless to even bring it up. Most bridal stores don’t let you cancel an order without losing your deposit.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t want someone to tell me they hated my dress, even if they did. I agree with @alicia1745. Just say how happy you are that she’s happy and leave it at that.
Post # 14
say congrats on your dress, and can’t wait!
that’s like saying congrats when I hate e-rings. They say I love it I say congrats!
Post # 15
I only went shopping for my dress with my mom. I didn’t want a bunch of other people giving their opinions, because what I cared about was that I loved how I looked in the dress.
If she’s happy with how she looks in it and how it photographs, then that’s her vision of herself as a bride and it’s not your place to tell her it’s wrong for her.
So say whatever nice things you can without having to praise the dress (“You look so happy! I can tell how much you love it! Can’t wait to see you walk down the aisle!”) and let it go.
Post # 16
My best friend HATED the first dress I fell in love with. She just hated everything about it- she thought it made me look heavy, it hid my best parts, she just hated it. Haha.
Then I had dress drama and went with a different dress entirely. The dress happened to be one she’d picked off the website for me months ago, even though I didn’t like it online (seriously, DB does their dresses no justice). I had no clue she hated the first dress until I showed her the one I bought. She never would’ve told me, and she put on a happy face and told me she was happy for me.
For what it’s worth, I still love the first dress and wish I could’ve gotten it, even over her objections. But knowing she loves the dress I have now makes me feel better too, because her fashion sense is spot on.
I wouldn’t say anything to your friend. She’s happy, don’t rain on that parade.