Post # 1
I will be getting my dress in tomorrow! I just purchased the David’ Bridal V3204. I love the shape of the dress, its absolutely beautiful. **Note that in the picture, this is me, but it is not clipped or anything. My consultant was not the greatest! The other image is the stock image just to kind of show where everything is located!
Now, this last weekend, my fiance and I were part of a wedding that was held at a very beautiful rustic barn. The barn happens to be in our (my fiance’s) extended family and the lady who owns the residence has wanted us to hold our wedding there (ceremony and reception) since well before we were ever engaged. We ended up going a different route as a barn wedding would have been a lot to take on (renting tables, chairs, dishes, porta potties, heat lamps just in case, bartenders, clean up crew, ect). We really do not have a ton of help with the wedding – so I got scared and chickened out. We ended up choosing this really beautiful golf course to hold our reception, and I am still very happy with this decision.
However, at the wedding this weekend our family member snagged us and talked us through considering at least getting married at the barn (barn is only 15 minutes from the golf course, versus 30 minutes from the church we were originally going to get married). I LOVED THE IDEA. It is the best of both worlds for me. Romantic, rustic, laid back ceremony. Close to reception hall, but without all of the work that I know I couldnt handle alone.
Now, here comes the part that I am worried about: My dress is too glam for the venue (I think!)
Bees, what are your thoughts? I was thinking of taking off the bow and beading, adding some really pretty beaded and pearled lace alencon appliques in a few spots….do you think that would carry more of a rustic/vintage/romantic vibe…or too much? What would be some other options?
NEED YOUR THOUGHTS 🙂
Post # 3
You don’t need to change your dress just because you change the location of the ceremony. I would take some time however, to think of how you are going to keep it clean, to move to the golf club. (if the barn area is not all paved/lawn and clean)
You will also now have to rent chairs.
Post # 4
julies1949: Thank you so much for your reply and suggestion! Good call on keeping it clean, that will take some work. It is paved and landscaped, very beautiful barn. Inside is completely renovated (no animals) with a loft and balconies. Getting carried away with my thoughts 🙂
The barn owner does have 100 chairs, but I do think I will need to rent about 50-100 more, guess we will see how many people rsvp….
What do you think about this lace applique in place of the bow (If I were to remove it?)
(however, in white, not ivory)
Post # 5
please don’t change it! I LOVE the bow! (my dress has a bow too- in the back!) This is YOUR wedding day, YOU are the bride, and no matter what other people are dressed in they will EXPECT you to be in a big fancy wedding dress. Lots of weddings I’ve been too look very casual until you see the bride and groom decked out in super formal attire. While some brides want everything to be matchy matchy, I have seen brides rock dresses like that in barns and fields (and I’m from Texas, so I would know!) It is awesome and looks gorgeous on you as is.
Post # 6
I agree to keep it as-is! I think the bow is very congruous with your theme, and the dress isn’t crazy-princess, so the whole thing totally works!
Post # 7
@reienchs: don’t change the dress! your figure looks amazing in it even though it wasnt clipped
If you look fantastic in it, noone in their right mind would say “oh, that’s not a barn wedding kind of dress” haha
What you could do is have the rest of your look soft and romantic like a raw edge tulle veil or bird cage, bouquet with a rustic country vibe, softly styled hair and makeup.
Post # 8
I have the same dress! I just had my first fitting on Tuesday, and I’m very happy with how it turned out. I wish I’d had time to get a picture.
Anyway, I think your dress will be fine, even if you decide to go with the barn. I am also thinking about getting rid of the bow in favor of a broach. The alterations lady told me that it would be possible, but that the replacement would need to be at least about half the size of the bow in order to hide the bustle.
Post # 9
@reienchs: I really like this dress and it looks great on you so please don’t change it. You don’t need to change your dress either because of a change of location, especially for the one part of your day.
Post # 10
KEEP THE BOW! And are you sure you want to forfeit a church wedding for a barn one? Something to consider.
Post # 11
Don’t change your dress, especially since the ceremony might only last 15 mins., and the reception will go on for hours.
I doubt anyone will judge you for having a “glam” dress in a “rustic” venue.
Post # 12
@reienchs: I think your dress is just fine for a barn wedding. It’s REALLY pretty and you look wonderful in it. Your dress looks very versatile–it’d look good in a church, barn, outdoors, indoors, parks, whatever!
If you want to do a dramatic difference between the barn and the golf course, change your accessories. Like a simple necklace and earrings for the ceremony and something bold and sparkly for the golf course.
But really, I think your dress is perfect for wherever you want it to be!
Post # 13
You look fabulous in your dress and I wouldn’t change a thing! 🙂
Post # 14
Thank you everyone for your advice and well wishes. After a lot of thought, some shopping, and talking with friends and family….I think I am going to ditch the bow. It is very pretty – just not me! I picked the dress more for the shape (looks amazing on!!).
Krispi: I am so excited that you and I have the same dress. I have some thoughts that I would like to share with you. I am going to order a bridal hair comb from etsy (or bridal shop). I would remove the hair comb portion and have the rest tacked on. I like this idea the best, been searching for brooches that are more ‘irregular’ shaped for days and day but never came across anything. Now just 20 minutes ago thought of the comb idea and there are MILLIONS that I LOVE.
this piece is 5 inches long –
Post # 15
Obviously, since my theme is a little more rustic/vintage, I think going with the pearl look would be goregous (making sure its white though!)
There are a ton of option that are crystal as well! Beautiful ones, at that!