(Closed) HELP! What should she do?

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
1537 posts
Bumble bee

I would 100% go for the small wedding because I think they should only have people at the wedding that are supportive. The small wedding could still have traditional elements as well. It should be a huge day of celebration for them not a reminder every time they see unsupportive guests that some people are against the marriage. As far as the save the dates, they have a couple of options. They could tell people that the wedding plan has changed due to financial circumstances (not entirely a lie) or they could hold a ‘celebration party’ on the day of the save the date for all the original guests after having the small wedding – kind of a mix of small wedding and traditional. 

They have my sympathy, its so unfair for their families to react this way. 22 is not THAT young especially with a college degree when theyve been together 4 years. And of course she wont be established in a career yet- some people dont get a career until they are 40! For the record im 24 with a BSc and have a zero hours job in daycare! So I think her parents are being a bit unrealistic. In fact I think its great they found each other so young before getting established because it shows that it doesnt matter what they do, they will always be there for each other. I hope it all sorts itself out and they have a great non-awkward wedding. 

Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with Kate A17.

However, I would say that they should have a serious conversation with each of those people alone and ask whether they want to be part of the wedding and lay down the rules. If they are considering not inviting them, then they have the “guts” to have the hard talk. Their families need to see them as mature adults who are getting married and not as their young helpless children.

The couple seem very supportive of each other which is amazing! congratulations to them for finding each other :)) I wish them all the happiness

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