Post # 1
The venue we picked for our reception is a beautifully restored bed and breakfast, which I love, because I want everyone in the family to be able to stay together (since we are scattered all over the country). We stayed there when we were first dating (in 2002, yikes), and it was georgous!
It is still beautiful, but the towels aren’t as big and fluffy, it needs a fresh coat of paint, etc. I thought I could deal with this, but, now that we are really working with the (very kind) owners, little things aren’t great. The bakery recommendation (the only one in the tiny town) was awful. The hair salon wasn’t helpful at all. I’m trying not to be too picky, but I also don’t want to regret things on my big day!It seems like the inn-keepers recomendations just aren’t that great. We don’t have anything in writing yet, but have met twice to hammer out details.
This location is expensive, so I was looking forward to not (for the first time ever) doing everything DIY (since this is 3 hours from home), but now it is getting to be more and more DIY because the florist, etc. all need help. I’m okay with expensive OR DIY, but not both!
So… Do I scrap the location, even though it’s in MAY, or do I just keeping plugging along? And if I scrap it, where should I look for another venue? We are okay with anything 3 hours or less from DC. We want something historic and beautiful, where 50 people can stay for under $250 per room. Thoughts? Thank you!!
Post # 3
What city are you looking at?
Post # 4
The reception is currently in a tiny rural town in near the coast of Virginia. But, anywhere within 3 hours of DC is cool with us: eastern shore of Maryland, in the mountains of VA, even up into PA, or down into NC. We just want somewhere beautiful, somewhere where most people can stay at the same place, and not too crazy expensive…
Post # 5
are these vendors that you HAVE to use or are just recommended? if they’re not must use, why not find other nearby vendors? is that possible?
honestly, i’d much rather have capable and competent vendors than the perfect place. i am a stickler for details so that would be something that bothered me big time.
Post # 6
The florist I have to use- she comes with the property. The cake lady and the hair salon are the only ones in town– this is a pretty rural area…
It definitely isn’t just the vendors or just the starting-to-flake, it’s that my guests will be paying a lot to stay there, and I will be paying a lot to have the party there. Am I going to regret this come the day-of, or should I should take it in stride? Is it too late to go somewhere else? And, if it isn’t, are there any better options for us?
Post # 7
Sounds like you already kind of regret it and as things get closer and you have to spend more money will that regret turn to resent? If it’s just the hair and cake- these things you can bring in from out of town (maybe) but if the venue itself needs a lot of work may be best to tell them it’s just not the right fit anymore and continue your search quickly.