- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
This is my first post on here a little more than 50 days out from my wedding. I’ve come to the hive for research help but now I’m dealing with something that I definitely need advice with. My officiant.
When I first got engaged, I always thought my childhood pastor would be the person to marry me. I asked him several months ago (approximately 5) and he accepted. Since then, dealing with him has been beyond frustrating.
Fiance and I both wanted to go through pre-marital counseling just because we both thought it’s a good idea to talk through all of the things that come with marriage. We also thought it would be good to discuss things we maybe haven’t thought about. Initially, our pastor sent us a set of 20 questions about 3 months ago. We finished them in two days. The day after we finished the questions he said he’d send us another set and follow up with a phone conference (we live in different states).
We received the next set of questions. Three months later. Still haven’t gotten a phonecall.
Every time I e-mail him asking for an update or for further assistance the only response I get is how busy he is and that we will talk in the near future. I also asked him to review the tenative ceremony schedule and let me know if there are any changes due to the ceremony programs going to print. His only response to that was “that’s a detailed outline”.
When I think of my wedding ceremony the first thing I think of is being married by someone who at least cares about you (or your wedding going smoothly) and the closer we get to the wedding the more I don’t know if he is the person for the job, or if he even cares to be.
Two of my uncles are also pastors and I could ask them to step in if needed.
Any advice on what I should do? Should I just stick with this pastor (he is the pastor of my parents current church), should I talk to him and tell him my concerns, or should I just get rid of him and have family members step in?
Thanks in advance for your help.