(Closed) HELP! What to do about frustrating officiant.

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

well you have options which is great. i’m really sorry that your pastor hasn’t been more helpful – maybe the internet isn’t his thing? does the church have a wedding coordinator that you could be directing your questions to? i’d call him to try and settle things that you’re iffy about and see if there’s any resolution. like “hello, this is Carolina, you’re marrying FH and I in about 2 months so I wanted to see if we could schedule a time to go over details x, y & z” either on the phone or in person if possible. that will let him know you’re ready to get to it and give him the chance to get his questions/things you’ve sent him in order and better help you. if he blows you off? then go with one of your uncles instead! good luck!

Post # 4
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CarolinaBride9: It sounds like you need to address this. You or your parents could speak with him and say how you always thought that he would officiate your wedding, but you were hoping for more in depth premarital counselling and you realize that he has many parishioners and community obligations and with that in mind does he think that he could either provide that or since you are close to two other pastors should you seek the advice of one them.

Post # 5
46596 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would make an appointment to meet with him.

Post # 6
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CarolinaBride9:  I would agree with what’s been said so far: communicate with him that you’d like to discuss some things!

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