(Closed) Help: When is getting a big diamond showing off?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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@polyblonde:  +1

You’re not showing off unless you are physically “showing it off.” Get what you want! 

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Showing off is what a girl I know does… Every time she sees someone that doesn’t know she’s engaged, she shoves it in her face…literally. 

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@wrkbrk:  awwwweeee thanks!! kinda cool to know someone loves my little gem as much as I do LOL  Bezels are the BOMB 🙂

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The ring I will be receiving is my BFs grandmothers 2.1 carat, so I have no say in my big stone (not complaining, I’m thrilled!) That said, the story behind the ring is a bit show off ish. His grandfather was a student when they got engaged and he bought her a nice, but modest ring because that was his budget. She was from old money and basically said she would marry him but she wouldn’t wear that ring and went out and bought herself a great big diamond (soon to be my great big diamond :)) 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

For me, showing off is when you make your selection to impress others instead of deciding what best suits you or what you truly love; showing off is an attitude that can’t be accurately measured in carats.

Post # 52
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If this is something that worries you, just get something which is an average size for your area.

I also disagree with PPs who say you will never regret going too large. Yes, it is possible. If you go too large and feel uncomfortable and self-conscious, you will simply end up not wearing the ring, which would be a shame.

Post # 53
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I 100% agree with what 

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@Rachel631:  sain in Reply # 51 above… You may not think you are showing off by going larger… BUT if your ring is more Diamond / bling than your locale / Social Circle of Family or Friends it will be perceived that way… 

So go with something you love but not BIG by those standards

In reality… Quality matters more than quantity anyhow… And there is something great about having a smaller but nearly perfect diamond and less worry in that you can wear it more places etc (CUT – CLARITY – CERTIFICATION – CANADIAN are all valuable Cs too! )

Hope this helps

 

 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@crystalrae:  +1, THIS.

 

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@HisQueenToBee:  Getting a bigger diamond IS showing off if you only wanted it to show off.

Getting a bigger diamond IS NOT showing off if you just love it and have it for your own enjoyment, at any size. So get whatever size makes your heart sing! I mostly judge engagement rings off of the owners reaction to it. They love it? Then it’s awesome and I love it too! 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@LittleE3:  Hey, that’s awesome! I really like the story actually, his grandma sounds saucy. It made me giggle.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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@Fizzy8:  I love it too! And his grandfather went on to be a surgeon and I am in medical school so I feeli connected to the whole story. And with his job and my mountain of student debt we would have had like a tiny budget, but instead I am getting an amazing ring with a fun past! 

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HisQueenToBee:  i think it totally doesn’t matter what others think of you but I know when I try on certain trends, I feel stupid or trying too hard. If you think it’s too much, then go down in size until you are comfortable and not self conscious about it. Th small ones I see and the large ones I see are lovely. It says more about the person who judges it than the person wearing it… no matter the size, I think “lucky gal, happy she is getting married”.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@HisQueenToBee:  Showing off isn’t about carat size… it’s about the attitude of the wearer.  I have a 2.43 ct now, but would love to have a 3.5+ if given the chance.  Am I trying to show off, no — I just love larger diamonds… and I think they love me!  😉

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@HisQueenToBee:  I think it’s showing off when that is your intention. 

If, when someone pictures having a big stone, they imagine waving their it in people’s faces, or “beating” their other friends by having a bigger stone, it’s showing off as well as immature and failure of character.

If someone is trying to demonstrate their wealth or social position by buying the biggest stone they can, it’s showing off. 

If someone feels entitled to a big stone or would be dissatisfied with something smaller because they are worried what people will think or feel like they will lose in the size wars.

 

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@msop04:  LOL! 

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@HisQueenToBee:  If your finger size is small then I Suppose you may get a few glances. 2.5cts isn’t THAT huge..it’s not like you’re going to block the sun with it LOL

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