(Closed) Help: When is getting a big diamond showing off?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Buying a diamond is a big decision and there are alot of factors to consider.

But the subjective opinions of others should not be one of those factors. 

Dont get caught up in the hype about rings. Focus on the commitment you are about to make to each other, and what the ring represents. Thats the same regardless of whether you have a .5 or a 15 carat ring. 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 63
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think the important thing is to purchase a diamond in your budget, regardless of size.

If budget isn’t a concern, just choose whatever feels comfortable on your finger.  If that means a smaller stone, who cares?  If that means you love wearing a 2 carat, go for it.  

It’s okay to feel shy and to want a smaller stone.  That’s how I am.  I got a ring I’m totally comfortable wearing that I love.  No regrets!

Post # 64
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1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It would depend entirely on setting and how the ring looks on your hand. Personally, while some bees have fantastic and gorgeous rings that look really large, I find I prefer rings that have only about 30-50% finger coverage, so a 1ct looks great on my size 7.5-8 finger. But it all depends on what you think looks best on YOU. If you’re comfortable rocking a 2ct stone on a size 4 finger, go for it.

Post # 65
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Sugar bee

@HisQueenToBee:  I think it’s how you present it whether it’s “showing off” or not. If you post a gillion pictures of it on FB every 5 minutes and constantly shove it in peoples faces who didn’t ask to see it then that would be showing off.

I think you could have a 4 carat ring but as long as it’s not all you talk about or are constantly showing it to people who didnt ask to see it it should be fine.

Post # 66
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

I think having a 2 ct+ diamond is showing off A little because that stone is probably over $20k sitting on your finger. and I personally would probably judge that person for being so materialistic to drop so much money on a ring. I have a luxury vehicle and at times feel guilty for how much I spent on it bc it’s just a car, and it is somewhat materialistic to have such a nice vehicle. but a ring for the same price as a luxx car?! No way lol 

Post # 67
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@MissSweetiepie:  mine will be an heirloom, we arent buying it. We live in a tiny one bedroom and I drive a very basic car. Some big stones may be moissy and thus much less expensive. People have priorities. You obviously chose a car over a ring. If it weren’t for the heirloom I wouldn’t have chosen the ring either personally, but I don’t want a fancy car either. I would want a home or travel. But I’m saying just because someone choose a different priority doesn’t make them wrong 

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I disagree vehemently with the posters who say getting a 2+ ct ring is showing off. It’s all about how we CHOOSE to spend our money. Some buy nice cars, others live in nice houses, some buy expensive clothes, some purchase expensive shoes. 

If I own a 2ct ring, I am in no way showing off any more than someone who chooses to rock a designer handbag.

It is 100% all about the attitude you carry with it.

Post # 69
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

@LittleE3:  well yours is a heirloom you aren’t paying anything so obviously your an exception but yes everyone does have priorities and spending that much on a large diamond is showing off just like when I pull up in my lux car could be considered showing off. Dropping a crazy amount of money on a material item isn’t necessary and people do it to show what they have it’s a projection of how they want you to see them & of course they like lux items but it is materialistic   

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

playdohpants:  I think it’s how you  present it whether it’s “showing off” or not. If you post a gillion pictures of  it on FB every 5 minutes and constantly shove it in peoples faces who didn’t ask  to see it then that would be showing off.

TheMrsTulip:  I disagree vehemently with the posters who say getting a 2+ ct ring is  showing off. It’s all about how we CHOOSE to spend our money. Some buy nice  cars, others live in nice houses, some buy expensive clothes, some purchase  expensive shoes.

If I own a 2ct ring, I am in no way showing off any more than someone who  chooses to rock a designer handbag.

It is 100% all about the attitude you carry with  it.

 

I agree with the above posters.  I will wear what I like (or at least what I can afford-HA!).  If ppl chose to judge me, then that’s 100% a show of their character… I can only control my actions, not the actions of those around me.  After all, I’m not concerned with what others think of the size diamond I wear, the luxury items I own, or the way that I choose to spend my money — I am only concerned with my happiness and that of those I love.  Laughing 

FWIW, it has been my experience that those with what others might deem “smaller” stones are usually the ones that tend to act petty and judgemental when it comes to ering size (at least larger than theirs).  I wonder if they’d feel the same way if they were presented one of those “show-off” rings for which they like to condemn?  Would they refuse a 2+ ct. rock for the purpose of not wanting to be showy?  Maybe so… my guess is no.  LOL 

 

Post # 71
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978 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I went from a 2ct to a 1.4ct. I’m a size 4.5 and the 2ct was ridiculous to me. I constantly had people making comments over it and it really made me feel uncomortable. Plus we are a military family so majority of our friends are  middle class people, it just didnt fit in.

Post # 72
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My finger is a 4.25 and my 1ct stone is just enough, but not too much, I think. It’s small enough to keep with the dainty setting, but big enough to be seen, for sure. 

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think each couple is different. When I went ring shopping, I tried on a 1ct ring and thought it was too flashy and a little extravagant for me, and what I wanted to spend (my finacé was cool with up to $5K, but I didn’t want to spend that much since we’re also moving in together soon) so we ended up getting a .5ct center stone, and it’s absolutely perfect because I like more simple, delicate rings (mine is a small halo with a half eternity band).  My best friend’s fiancé ended up spending close to $10K on her ring, and that is what works for them (hers is a custom design but looks almost exactly like the verragio Insignia 7074P).  To each there own. If you can rock a 2+ carat ring, and have the budget for it, go for it! Screw the haters, just get what you are comfortable with.

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with the group that says showing off is showing off. I knew someone once who had a .25 Ct stone and they would shove it in everyone’s face. It wasn’t the size that made it showing off but the action of trying to get everyone to look at it all the time.

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