Post # 1
My wedding is coming up very soon, and I suddenly realized I don’t know what to do with Jim’s ring during the ceremony!!
We’re having a formal wedding. Gorgeous lace gown, tuxedo, roses, champagne toast, wedding cake, photographer, all the lovely things that go with a wedding… Here’s the catch. We’re eloping–just the two of us. We found a beautiful B&B in Savannah with a beautiful …private garden and it’s exactly what we’ve dreamed of.
So my question is usually someone else holds the ring until the minister asks for them, but I won’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Jim has a pocket to hold my ring until that time, but I don’t.
Where do I put his ring when I’m walking down the aisle so I won’t lose it and can access it easily when the minister says “do you have the rings?” Someone has to know some trick or secret you can share for this situation.
Post # 3
I am not really sure, but maybe you could tie it with a skinny ribbon to your bouquet. I am sorry, but that is the only suggestion I can come up with.
Post # 4
I wore my husband’s on my thumb during the ceremony. No one even noticed because I was holding my bouquet until came time for the ring exchange. I had several family members and friends tell me this is what they have done or have heard of others doing.
Post # 5
@noritake22: Actually that’s a really cute suggestion!!!
I mean, really he could hold both and when the time comes, he hands you his. But, I really like tying it onto the bouquet better …. that’s really a great idea!
Post # 6
If it isn’t too big to fit on your thumb, I like that idea a lot.
Post # 7
Thanks!!! I like both ideas, wearing it on my thumb and tying it to my bouquet. I just checked his ring, and it does fit on my thumb, so that is a definite option.
Thank you, Bees!!!! I was so worried about this last night before I went to bed!!!
Post # 8
You and your Fiance can both give the bands to the minister beforehand (or give to your DOC to give to the minister). If it’s just going to be the two of you, there’s really no reason to make a big production out of giving the rings to the minister during the ceremony. He can just pull them both out of his pocket at the appropriate time.
Post # 9
@Farfromachildbride: I don’t know what the DOC is… That’s a new one, and I’m probably going to feel foolish for not being able to figure it out after someone tells me what it is.
Thank you for the suggestion, but I’m not keen on giving the rings to the minister before hand. It would feel more like he was giving us rings to exchange that way rather than us each bringing a ring ourselves for each other.
We want all the things that go with a wedding, otherwise we wouldn’t have gone to the trouble of buying an expensive dress and getting a tuxedo. I’m not exactly sure why it just being the two of us would mean there’s no reason to make a big production out of giving the rings to the minister… The ceremony is for the couple, not a show for the people invited. I know you were trying to help, but that comment kind of sounded like my ceremony was less important than someone elses ceremony who has lots of guests, and it kind of hurt.
Post # 10
DOC = Day of Coordinator 🙂
Post # 11
I’ll definitely be wearing his on my thumb! What a cute suggestion!
Post # 12
@KaitlinHudson: That’s where I’m going to wear it too. I thought about tying it in the bouquet, but then I’d have to fuddle with that too.
@weddingdiva-in-training: Thank you!
Post # 13
I wore my husband’s ring on my thumb and he wore mine on his pinky. When we got to the ring part, our officient kind of got a kick out of the fact that we each had the other’s ring. It worked out really well – and I liked the symbolism that we were each wearing the rings when we said our vows, and then exchanged them during the ring part.
Also, logistically, it worked better too. My husband wore a kilt (no pockets) and though he wore a sporran in front, I didn’t think it would look good to have him digging around in there during the ceremony!
Your elopement sounds lovely!
Post # 14
@liltwinstar: Thank you! I have a feeling Jim will probably put my ring in his pocket. I’ll have to remove my engagement ring and give it to him, because my engagement ring fits inside my wedding ring.
I would have to agree that it probably wouldn’t have looked appropriate for your husband to dig around in his sporran. But how cool is that he wore a kilt!! Did you wear his clan colors too?
I’m a little nervous. We’re getting married tomorrow…
Post # 15
@noritake22:i love that idea! use a cute ribbon on your bouquet.
the other suggestions are great, too, but that’s my favorite!
Post # 16
Probably too late, but my Maid/Matron of Honor kept my hubby’s ring and the best man kept my ring. It’s a good responsibility for them to have. As if you don’t have enough to remember during the ceremony! This seems to be the ongoing tradition where i’m from.