(Closed) Help! Where do I start?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The first thing Darling Husband and I did was sit down, and pick what 10 aspects of the wedding were THE MOST important to us.  The first (for him) was less than 40 people, because he gets really nervous in crowds.  This was something we would not (and did not) compromise on.

After that, go through and set a budget.  Set an overall budget, and then figure out how much you will allocate to each thing.  Although the taste of our cake was important to us, the place we chose it from was not, so we spent less on the cake, and more on the rest of the food.

After you figure out what is most important, and how much you have to spend on each aspect, then you can start looking for inspiration!  I think this order is important, otherwise, you’ll end up planning a100k wedding, when in reality, you have a 10k budget.

Post # 6
Bee
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Aw sweetie don’t stress! You’ll figure things out pretty quickly, and there are a million tools out there to help you stay organized!

I totally agree with the previous person – first decide what’s important to you (in general… I’m not talking about colors, or flowers, or whether you’ll have a bouquet toss… but a general number of guests, where (city/town) you’d like to get married, whether you want a traditional wedding or something modern or rustic or a little different, etc.). Then figure out a budget, and talk to your families about who’s contributing what – if your parents are contributing.

After Mr. W and I did that, we kind of plunged into wedding planning. I signed up for an account with The Knot and I used the Knot’s planning checklist, as well as the guest list tool. The first few months we were engaged, we started developing a list of people we wanted to invite, and our parents did the same – as we added people, I added them to this guest list tool. Once we had the list and were ready to mail out save-the-dates, I collected addresses and entered them into the tool – it made it really easy to stay organized, and it let me track the date I mailed out invitations to each person, whether they RSVPed yes/no, what gift they gave us, and what date the thank-you card was mailed out.

The Knot’s checklist tool was really helpful too. It was a little overwhelming, so I didn’t really start using it until we had booked our venue, but in the 6 months leading up to the wedding I found it REALLY helpful. It lets you add in your own checklist items, too, and it’s nice because you can update it from any computer.

So anyways, with the help of those tools, Mr. W and I started planning our wedding together. We decided to have an outdoor wedding, so we looked at ~5 outdoor venues that were within our price range before we booked one. If you see venues that you like online, email them and they can send you their general pricing info so you know if they’ll fit in your budget! Also, I found that the best ways to find venues were by looking at ones featured on The Knot and Weddingwire, and by looking at one of my favorite photographers’ wedding blogs to see photos of where other Houston couples got married.

To us, it was important to pick a venue before hiring anyone else, because that meant we had a place (and a date!) locked down. Only then did we start interviewing photographers, and hired some other people (a florist, an officiant, a day-of coordinator, a DJ, a videographer). And around then, we also picked out bridesmaids and groomsmen and asked them to be in the wedding.

I also recommend reading the book “A Practical Wedding.” Don’t worry, it’s really short – but it puts a lot of things into perspective, helps you stay calm, and gives you an idea of how to do each step of wedding planning! That book gave me a lot of inspiration!

Don’t stress over it – there are some difficult, expensive decisions to make, but wedding-planning can definitely make you and your Fiance closer – it definitely did for Mr. W and I, because we had never worked on such a big project together before. And if you have ANY questions at all or need any advice, feel free to PM me!

Post # 7
Hostess
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Start off slow. Discuss what you want out of your wedding, or what aspects your family might be expecting.

For my wedding, our families expect a bar and dance floor, that has been done in our family FOREVER! Next, He wanted a pub/lounge area, and I wanted a candy buffet.

Next to discuss is how many people, typically, its the same amount from both sides. We capped ours at 66, although we anticpate only 40 who will be able to make it.

The date is a very important factor. Me fiance and I wanted a christmas wedding, but finding a venue in my small area was awful [not to mention twice as expensive!], so we opted for halloween [which is both of our favorite holidays].

I’ve found that once I found WHERE and WHEN our wedding was going to be, everything else is slowly falling into place.

Post # 8
Member
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

LOL–I’m the same, want it all organized down to the detail so I can hand out assignments on the day, then relax and enjoy.

We talked and thought about what we wanted and looked for a venue first.  As a past grumpy wedding guest and first-time bride, I didn’t have a the first clue about planning a wedding. But I knew there was An Industry poised to capitalize on my romantic sentiment, so I bought three planning books and read them cover to cover to become an educated consumer.  I don’t have any recent brides in my life to help.

Once the venue was picked, and thus the date set, I made up a spreadsheet with any decision- or logistical-point I could think of and due dates, like a project breakdown structure.  All the other items have been thinking and researching and talking (a little arguing, which is healthy) with my Fiance over and checking off task items.

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