Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone has advice for couples from two different countries?
I’m Irish (now living in Scotland) with Fiancee who is Scottish.
Not sure whether to wed in Ireland, in Scotland or go abroad. We both have elderly familiy members who would not be able to make it if hosted anywhere other than where they live. I also have a VERY large family.
Worried about the costs involved and dissapointing people.
Anyone had to do this before? Any hints or tips would be much appreciated!
Post # 2
Mrs.Reilly: DH and I are from different provinces in Canada and currently live in a third. The flight from my home province to where I live now is 3+ hours.
WE sat down and made a guest list, we determined who would have to travel depending on the location, we then factored in who would have the most difficulty travelling and who were the most important guests to us.
Ultimately we realized no matter where we had it 75% of the list would have to travel. We determined that having it where we live made the most sense for the most people and gave the most people the best chance to get there. We still had a lot of declines which was hard but we had a great wedding and wouldn’t change anything.
Post # 3
My husband is English, I’m American. We had the wedding in the US, as I’ve got elderly family that couldn’t travel. We’re having a reception in the UK later this year for his family that couldn’t make it to the wedding. i’d say have your ceremony & reception in one place and have a wedding video made, show it at a reception in the other. You could even have some family members tune in on Skype to watch the ceremony.
Post # 4
I’m Canadian, Fiance is from New Zealand. We live in Canada and after much discussion decided to have the wedding here. We considered having it in NZ, but at the end of the day we have built a life in this country. All of our mutual friends live here, he is extremely close with my family (since he has lived here for 5 years), and my father can’t travel the 30 hours to NZ due to heart problems.
We know that there will be certain people who can’t make it from NZ, which sucks… but at the end of the day there would be far more people from our life together in Canada that couldn’t make it to NZ. Unfortunately, it does become kind of a numbers game, and you need to weigh the pros and cons. There will always be someone important to you that won’t be able to make it, but thankfully like buddiroo mentioned, you can always set up Skype or have a video made. Got to love technology!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2016 - Liberty House
Mrs.Reilly: I am American and my Fiance is from Singapore. We both live in New York, and we will be holding our wedding here. It just makes the most sense since it would be tough for us to plan a wedding in another hemisphere, not to mention he has been living in NYC for 5 years. Unfortunately, this means that the wedding will be a bit uneven, considering all of my friends and family will be here, while only his immediate family and local friends will be able to make it.
As a compromise, we will be going to Singapore some time after our wedding and having a big dinner to celebrate with his friends and family who couldn’t make it.
I think you have to see based on your own circumstances what makes the most sense. Yes, there will be people disappointed no matter what, but outside of having multiple weddings, you will have to choose a location and stick with it. People will understand!