- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So we got engaged about two weeks ago and everyone is really excited. People keep asking me about the date. Now, I originally wanted an October 2012 wedding. October is my absolute favorite month of the year. I love the weather, the changing leaves, the fall air — it’s just great. And I wanted an outdoor ceremony, which would be beautiful in the fall. But Fiance took his sweet time proposing, so now there’s only 8 months to go. That still would have been doable for me, but, about one week before we got engaged, his brother and his girlfriend announced that they were finally (after 10 years) getting married — within a week of my chosen October 2012 date. Fiance is his best man, and he flat out didn’t want to have to negotiate his own wedding around his brother’s in addition to having such a short planning period.
So my dream of an October 2012 wedding is out. I decided on October 2013 instead. But I’m having problems with this decision. Honestly, that’s just too far away for me. I just want to be married. I don’t want to have to wait for it. That honestly doesn’t make sense to me. I see engagement as a time period that should be just long enough to get the logistics figured out. I don’t need 20 months to plan a wedding. I want to get this over with so I can finally be his wife!
So I thought maybe March 2013 would be better. That’s about a year away, and it’s off-season, so we might be able to get better prices for vendors. It just kills my preference for an October wedding and an outdoor ceremony.
I have no idea what to do. To be honest, I don’t even want to have a wedding — I just want to elope. But that’s a whole different topic, and Fiance absolutely does not want an elopement. He wants the whole song and dance. Since I have to plan a wedding, I really just want to get it done and have everything planned as soon as possible so I don’t have to stress myself out over it longer than necessary. I’m already dealing with family drama and I just want this whole situation to be over with.
Advice or perspective would be wonderful. My head is a jumbled mess right now. :/