- 8 months ago
- Wedding: March 2017
How about some like these?
How about some like these?
I’m sorry your disappointed and frustrated. Don’t give up. I really feel when I look at your body type that you’d look really great in like a fitted Aline or slight fit and flare. I’m not talking crazy mermaid, you can keep the full skirt, but something fitted lower on your waist. As for having a large chest, you can easily buy the dress a size or 2 bigger and have it fitted smaller to your waist and hips. I feel like maybe a sweetheart neckline would showcase your cleavage without putting it all on display. Again, you can keep the full skirt but I feel like your waist is actually cut off and lost in this style. This is obviously just my opinion and you should wear what makes you feel like the prettiest girl in the world!
pantsapocalypse : sorry but I have to agree with the majority of bees.
I wore a 38E at the time of my wedding and I have a fairly similar shape to you and I tried on a fair few dresses that were too small but they still even though they didn’t fit were decently flattering. I get the dresses are too small but I don’t think they are even in the right size made for people with a large bust. I think you will be disappointed if you get one of these dresses even if its in your correct size.
I get the struggle with having big boobs. Covering them up fully has the opposite effect by making them appear larger and that Julie Andrews should be dancing around on them singing ‘the hills are alive’!! You can’t make them disappear but you can make them look proportionate and less HELLO!!! The dresses you’ve posted are all very HELLO and will have everyone staring at your boobs and not your face and a wedding is an occasion where you want people to look at your face.
I think you should go back to the drawing board and start afresh. Look for more dresses with inbuilt support structure. My dress was so supportive of my bust that I went braless in public for probably the first and last time in my life. I’d also look for something that elongated your torso. Ask the bridal consultants to pick dresses for you. If they are good at their job they know which direction to stear you.
I’m not trying to upset you but you’ve got a lovely shape and those dresses are not doing great things for you. Spending that much money on a dress in hope that it looks great when ordered in your correct size is an expensive risk I wouldn’t take.
These are a few to show what I mean about being more fitted through your waist to lengthen your torso. You can also always get a fuller slip/petticoat for underneath to make the skirt fuller, too.
bluecandy : I am braless in all of these, because it’s just to get an idea and it’s easier to get in and out of samples that way.
I have a really good strapless bra that works for straight and sweetheart neckline but it’s too bunky for sample dresses unless the dress is way to big.
I own a few deep v cut dresses. I just use garment tape for most of them since they are also low in back but it takes like 15 to 20 minutes you tape boobs well without cleavage.
My breast are naturally far apart so it’s easy to tape for v necks but really time consuming. So taping for dress shopping would be extremely impractical since you have to do it while in the dress.
Honestly, I kind of want to just give up searching and trying to make this happen.
The whole dress shopping experience has been really disheartening and disappointing. When I started trying to find something I still had a pretty positive and hopefully attitude even though I was surrounded by size 2’s helping me in and out of dresses but at this point I don’t think I have ever felt this ugly in my life.
Do you have any other stores you can shop at? I’m definitely not a size 2, I’m a pant size 18 and I’m 5’11” so I’m a whole lotta woman. But my shopping experience (while I had some mild body issues of my own) was full of positivity from my consultant and she brought out multiple different styles even if I didn’t think I’d like them. I do understand it’s frustrating when you’re not built like a model, but you still should be able to find something you love. No one has been negative about your body here besides you. I wish you weren’t so hard on yourself cuz you do have a nice fuller figure! We’re just trying to offer what we feel would be more flattering styles. But you need to like it also! Also, did the store/boutique you went to have a decent selection of dresses in your size in the samples or were they all too small? Even tho I’m an 18, I was clipped into mostly size 24 dresses that were way too big. Being in a bigger dress and clipped for it to fit was much more comfortable and made me feel better than squeezing into dresses that couldn’t zip and I swore I was gunna bust a seam over my booty. I’m really sorry you’re feeling so bad. I hope that changes and you’re able to feel great in whatever dress you choose.
pantsapocalypse : I wear a 36 F and struggled with cup size on dresses as well.
I second the user that says that some dresses are just made with smaller chests/cups, even in larger sizes.
That said you seem to be drawn to dresses with exposed bodices. If that’s your jam, tape those puppies up and rock your favorite. (Personally, I like the style of #3…but not on me or another large chested woman…it would just be titty city lmao)
However, the larger problem to me is your self-esteem. It’s taken a hit. I think you should take a break from dress shopping and focus on healthy living and bringing your mental state/self-esteem back up. You could look at the most perfect dress right now and still not feel good because *you’re* not feeling good.
While on try-on hiatus, I recommend nailing down 1-3 details you have to have in a dress and focus on dresses with only those details. Pin some on pinterest and then go back to trying dresses when you feel ready, focusing on what you think is prettiest.
Lastly, wedding dresses are pretty. It’s hard to look bad in one, period. Even though these dresses are boobalicious, you still look nice in them.
Take a look at cocomelody.com. you can have dresses customized with larger cups and built in bras to help mitigate being chesty in a dress.
jaywalker7 : I hate a-lines, everyone I have tried on has produced an instant no, I’m 5’2 so they shorten me for one and for two they lack of a defined waist so it looks huge. Not to mention I have yet to find one that I feel looks good. Honestly, it’s contrary to my natural style, which is either bohemian or glam in formal wear.
Examples of other styles, FH hates the top one, which I have cleavage in the sample and the bottom being the best mermaid I have tried on(a discontinued sottero midgley), looks okish but is nothing great that also clashes with my wedding theme and formality level.
I have a sheath dress but FH hates the look of that also, saying he thinks they are boring.
ozbee : That second is the same cut everyone is hating on, high necks look horrible on me if I can fit into them.
cmsgirl : If there is nothing I like then there is no point in “starting over”. I figured I may got some negative remarks but didn’t plan for 100% negative. I mean I usually don’t care that much about what others think of me but it kind of hard not to given the situation.
As far a structure goes, I wear bralettes most of the time and go braless for if I wear dresses. I just using boob tap, so generally that’s how I try things on(braless) knowing that I’ll have cleavage and will tape it later. Never regretted it until now.
mrsbarack : I was actually in a great mood before this post. I loved #2 alot, I almost bought it. I’m do fetish modeling as a hobby, so I mean I was more committing how the super negative opinions bummed me out and less my personal opinion on my body. The results of this post made me feel ugly, which I usually don’t feel like. Sorry if my wording was confusing.
jaywalker7 : Both shops were great, the second way better then the first. I loved both of my coordinaters, I just have endometriosis so the in and out of dresses is painful after the 3rd or forth one. I turned alot down so it’s not like there was even a lack of selection. I’m just picky. It has to be boho and different, it can’t be white(the first dress would be pink and the second the same grey as the third, which also grey), it can’t be an bland, lace, it can’t make me look old, ect. I have a short list of dress and designers, it is just very apparent that my taste and that of weddingbee is 100% different.
There were plenty of dress I swam in, technically that Sottero Midgley was just ill fitted(the straps were waaay to long) but Watter, currently my favorite, usually does 6,10,14 and it’s not like I am not gonna try a dress on just because I have to use clasp.
pantsapocalypse : You really need structured undergarments when you wear your wedding dress, unless you are very small busted or have significant boning and structure built into a very fitted style of wedding dress. I agree that these dresses that “fit” on top in the V style push you down, flat, and out — and it isn’t so much the “everyone will be staring at your breasts” as the “everyone will be staring while they don’t look at their best.
When I first went dress shopping I was a 36G, 34” waist, 48” hips – USA plus sized who also felt ugly in everything. I had a tendency to pick anything, ANYTHING that would fit on my body and accommodate my bust-to-waist ratio (a 12” difference mostly in projection). I have full upper volume, very firm bust, that sit pretty high and attractively on my figure and I would not go braless for a wedding gown.
I leaned toward “V” style gowns initially too. But, one of the shops I went to took a look at my figure and suggested a corset back, drop waist, full ballgown/princess style. It is hard to find images online because most dresses are now ice-skater style beaded nothing-but-skin gowns that aren’t right for my figure, but I think that your figure would benefit from the look of a slightly drop waisted gown as well. If you find something that sits a few inches below your true hips instead of at the smallest portion of your waist as most of these you tried on seem to do, your curves will be more attractively accented.
And, trust me, no matter what you are naturally comfortable with, you really do want to wear a gown and support garments for your wedding that push your ladies inward and upward if they tend to go the other ways. This will look best on your big day. I know they might not be styles you would normally consider, and these are poor examples, but some of this is sort fo what I mean in where a waistline would sit attractively on you, and allow you to wear support underwear that would further enhance your naturally busty shape.
None of them sorry OP, especially not the last one you can’t try on. None of them have enough bodice structure , they are all made for small breasted women basically.
I’m sorry you feel down about it now ,it’s not about you, you know, its about that particular style of dres.s
I’m very sorry that you get so much negative comments on a dress you really liked! I can understand that this must be really hurtful. Unfortunately in have to agree – I had the same reaction when I saw your pictures, it was too booby for my taste. That said, it’s your day and if this is your style, go for it! In which case I personally preferred dress A. Your boobs definitely look like they have a great shape! If you’re doing fetish modelling as a hobby then showing more might simply be part of your personality and why not including this in your day.
I’m also large chested (36F) and I often like deep cut dresses/tops on others but on me they always feel to revealing. I actually quite like the strapless neckline of the Maggie Sottero dress above on you – still showing off your cleavages but more coverage. I think the sweetheart neckline looks lovely (the straight neckline of the other strapless dress I really didn’t like though).
Maybe try on a romantic strapless a-lonA dress, for example this by Stella York – it comes in non-white colours!
Another idea could be to work with a seamstress and add a bit of lace to dress A or B to cover you up a bit more? People did that to me in a few bridal boutiques and it always looked nice.
Hope this helps a bit and doesn’t make you feel bad, in the end it’s your day and you have to do what feels best for you! Xx
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