(Closed) Help! Which is dress is better?

posted 8 months ago in Dress
  • poll: Which dress options works best?
    Dress A, the beaded dress : (25 votes)
    17 %
    Dress B, the floral dress : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Dress C, the galettes- just order it without trying it on. : (28 votes)
    19 %
    None of the above, please explain. : (89 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 16
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    How about some like these?

    Post # 18
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I’m sorry your disappointed and frustrated. Don’t give up. I really feel when I look at your body type that you’d look really great in like a fitted Aline or slight fit and flare. I’m not talking crazy mermaid, you can keep the full skirt, but something fitted lower on your waist. As for having a large chest, you can easily buy the dress a size or 2 bigger and have it fitted smaller to your waist and hips. I feel like maybe a sweetheart neckline would showcase your cleavage without putting it all on display. Again, you can keep the full skirt but I feel like your waist is actually cut off and lost in this style. This is obviously just my opinion and you should wear what makes you feel like the prettiest girl in the world!

    Post # 19
    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    pantsapocalypse :  sorry but I have to agree with the majority of bees.

    I wore a 38E at the time of my wedding and I have a fairly similar shape to you and I tried on a fair few dresses that were too small but they still even though they didn’t fit were decently flattering. I get the dresses are too small but I don’t think they are even in the right size made for people with a large bust. I think you will be disappointed if you get one of these dresses even if its in your correct size.

    I get the struggle with having big boobs. Covering them up fully  has the opposite effect by making them appear larger and that Julie Andrews should be dancing around on them singing ‘the hills are alive’!! You can’t make them disappear but you can make them look proportionate and less HELLO!!! The dresses you’ve posted are all very HELLO and will have everyone staring at your boobs and not your face and a wedding is an occasion where you want people to look at your face.

    I think you should go back to the drawing board and start afresh. Look for more dresses with inbuilt support structure. My dress was so supportive of my bust that I went braless in public  for probably the first and last time in my life. I’d also look for something that elongated your torso. Ask the bridal consultants to pick dresses for you. If they are good at their job they know which direction to stear you.

    I’m not trying to  upset you but you’ve got a lovely shape and those dresses are not doing great things for you. Spending that much money on a dress in hope that it looks great when ordered in your correct size is an expensive risk I wouldn’t take. 

    Post # 20
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    These are a few to show what I mean about being more fitted through your waist to lengthen your torso. You can also always get a fuller slip/petticoat for underneath to make the skirt fuller, too.

    Post # 22
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Do you have any other stores you can shop at? I’m definitely not a size 2, I’m a pant size 18 and I’m 5’11” so I’m a whole lotta woman. But my shopping experience (while I had some mild body issues of my own) was full of positivity from my consultant and she brought out multiple different styles even if I didn’t think I’d like them. I do understand it’s frustrating when you’re not built like a model, but you still should be able to find something you love. No one has been negative about your body here besides you. I wish you weren’t so hard on yourself cuz you do have a nice fuller figure! We’re just trying to offer what we feel would be more flattering styles. But you need to like it also! Also, did the store/boutique you went to have a decent selection of dresses in your size in the samples or were they all too small? Even tho I’m an 18, I was clipped into mostly size 24 dresses that were way too big. Being in a bigger dress and clipped for it to fit was much more comfortable and made me feel better than squeezing into dresses that couldn’t zip and I swore I was gunna bust a seam over my booty. I’m really sorry you’re feeling so bad. I hope that changes and you’re able to feel great in whatever dress you choose. 

    Post # 24
    478 posts
    Helper bee

    pantsapocalypse :  I wear a 36 F and struggled with cup size on dresses as well.

    I second the user that says that some dresses are just made with smaller chests/cups, even in larger sizes.

    That said you seem to be drawn to dresses with exposed bodices. If that’s your jam, tape those puppies up and rock your favorite. (Personally, I like the style of #3…but not on me or another large chested woman…it would just be titty city lmao)

    However, the larger problem to me is your self-esteem. It’s taken a hit. I think you should take a break from dress shopping and focus on healthy living and bringing your mental state/self-esteem back up. You could look at the most perfect dress right now and still not feel good because *you’re* not feeling good.

    While on try-on hiatus, I recommend nailing down 1-3 details you have to have in a dress and focus on dresses with only those details. Pin some on pinterest and then go back to trying dresses when you feel ready, focusing on what you think is prettiest.

    Lastly, wedding dresses are pretty. It’s hard to look bad in one, period. Even though these dresses are boobalicious, you still look nice in them.


    Take a look at cocomelody.com. you can have dresses customized with larger cups and built in bras to help mitigate being chesty in a dress.

    Good luck!

    Post # 28
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee

    pantsapocalypse :  You really need structured undergarments when you wear your wedding dress, unless you are very small busted or have significant boning and structure built into a very fitted style of wedding dress. I agree that these dresses that “fit” on top in the V style push you down, flat, and out — and it isn’t so much the “everyone will be staring at your breasts” as the “everyone will be staring while they don’t look at their best.

    When I first went dress shopping I was a 36G, 34” waist, 48” hips – USA plus sized who also felt ugly in everything. I had a tendency to pick anything, ANYTHING that would fit on my body and accommodate my bust-to-waist ratio (a 12” difference mostly in projection). I have full upper volume, very firm bust, that sit pretty high and attractively on my figure and I would not go braless for a wedding gown.

    I leaned toward “V” style gowns initially too. But, one of the shops I went to took a look at my figure and suggested a corset back, drop waist, full ballgown/princess style. It is hard to find images online because most dresses are now ice-skater style beaded nothing-but-skin gowns that aren’t right for my figure, but I think that your figure would benefit from the look of a slightly drop waisted gown as well. If you find something that sits a few inches below your true hips instead of at the smallest portion of your waist as most of these you tried on seem to do, your curves will be more attractively accented. 

    And, trust me, no matter what you are naturally comfortable with, you really do want to wear a gown and support garments for your wedding that push your ladies inward and upward if they tend to go the other ways. This will look best on your big day.  I know they might not be styles you would normally consider, and these are poor examples, but some of this is sort fo what I mean in where a waistline would sit attractively on you, and allow you to wear support underwear that would further enhance your naturally busty shape.


    Post # 29
    8266 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    pantsapocalypse :

    None of them sorry OP, especially not the last one you can’t try on. None of them have enough bodice  structure , they are all made for small breasted women basically. 

    I’m sorry you feel down about it now ,it’s not about you,  you know, its about that  particular  style of dres.s 

    Post # 30
    47 posts
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I’m very sorry that you get so much negative comments on a dress you really liked! I can understand that this must be really hurtful. Unfortunately in have to agree – I had the same reaction when I saw your pictures, it was too booby for my taste. That said, it’s your day and if this is your style, go for it! In which case I personally preferred dress A. Your boobs definitely look like they have a great shape! If you’re doing fetish modelling as a hobby then showing more might simply be part of your personality and why not including this in your day. 

    I’m also large chested (36F) and I often like deep cut dresses/tops on others but on me they always feel to revealing. I actually quite like the strapless neckline of the Maggie Sottero dress above on you – still showing off your cleavages but more coverage. I think the sweetheart neckline looks lovely (the straight neckline of the other strapless dress I really didn’t like though). 

    Maybe try on a romantic strapless a-lonA dress, for example this by Stella York – it comes in non-white colours!

    Another idea could be to work with a seamstress and add a bit of lace to dress A or B to cover you up a bit more? People did that to me in a few bridal boutiques and it always looked nice.

    Hope this helps a bit and doesn’t make you feel bad, in the end it’s your day and you have to do what feels best for you! Xx

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