(Closed) Help! Which is dress is better?

posted 7 months ago in Dress
  • poll: Which dress options works best?
    Dress A, the beaded dress : (25 votes)
    17 %
    Dress B, the floral dress : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Dress C, the galettes- just order it without trying it on. : (28 votes)
    19 %
    None of the above, please explain. : (89 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 46
    437 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    pantsapocalypse :  I like the beaded dress more as I feel it has alot more beautiful details….however I do have to agree with everyone that all are a bit too low cut. However hun this is YOUR wedding so do what makes YOU happy, if you want to show some boob then go for it lol.

    Post # 47
    174 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think you’re being a little harsh on the commenters. It’s a sensitive subject, and I don’t think anyone posted mean comments about your body, just that they didn’t like the dress choices. I think most people are happy to have brides show their body if they want to, and all sorts of dresses are approved that show lots of skin. It’s just a matter of people thinking that a different style would flatter your shape. You asked for opinions on your dress options. People took a lost of time and gave thoughtful responses and suggestions. 

    A beach wedding where a bikini is a viable option is a huge difference from a church wedding where Grandma Flo and the priest might side eye your boobs. Context is key here.

    Wear the bikini and get a beautiful expensive coverup that you can wear again.

    Post # 48
    3737 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m also sorry if what I said hurt your feelings at all. You asked for opinions, and I feel like the majority of posts weren’t mean at all. They may not have been what you wanted to hear, but that happens sometimes when you ask for opinions, especially strangers. I only suggested you keep looking because on your wedding day, everyone should be commenting on how beautiful you are rather than getting distracted by cleavage. I actually think the strapless one you posted as one of your rejects was much more flattering and didn’t have too much cleavage showing. Even if you didn’t like that particular dress, I think that shape is definitely one you should reconsider.

    Post # 49
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I am very surprised by the comments in this thread. The dresses that OP are wearing are clearly not in her size. I’ve seen plenty of episodes of SYTTD where brides with large breasts can’t fit into the top of a sample, but their dress fits perfectly after alterations and they are adequately covered. 

    OP, I’m so sorry this thread has made you feel discouraged. If I may offer my two cents – I think dress B is lovely on you. Does the bridal salon have a seamstress on site? They can speak to how the dress will fit after alterations – just like they have to do when a bride is trying on a sample that is too big. Having that conversation will help you to make a better informed decision.

    You have a beautiful body and you will find the absolute perfect dress for your big day!

    Post # 50
    481 posts
    Helper bee

    pantsapocalypse :  Jeez. Temper tantrum much? Pretty much all of these replies are just pointing out that EVEN IN YOUR SIZE AND ALTERED, all of these dresses expose a lot of chest.

    Many people said that it was too much for them, but if it’s not for you, then go on with your bad self.

    No one made degrading comments about your body…just the style of the dress.

    Many people went out of their way to look up alternatives to give you some more options because the dresses you chose have little to no structure in the bodice, which does not usually flatter large chested women. No one had to spend the time. But they did in trying to help you.

    You also GAVE the option of “none of these 3, comment below” and now you’re pouty about it???? That’s super lame.

    I got the exact same comments on my dress thread, if you go back and look because I have HUGE boobs and the samples didn’t fit my chest/small shoulder combo either and MANY people let me know that I looked a little scandalous for them and THAT’S OKAY!

    I still chose the dress *I* liked the best, but I appreciated the outside perspective on how I looked to a broad range of strangers.

    I do think you are being overly sensitive because a lot of people don’t share your taste. It’s really not a big deal. If you fell in love with the second dress and want to tape your boobs, then forget the peanut gallery on the internet and do you. But don’t get all pissy because people are telling you what you can already see with your eyeballs…which is that because you like deep-V dresses and with large breasts, you will have a lot of exposed chest.

    Post # 51
    450 posts
    Helper bee

    I think dress number 1 would be a good option if you had the straps lined in white. 

    Post # 52
    283 posts
    Helper bee

    pantsapocalypse :  unlined!  That’s the word I was looking for.  Get an unlined longline bra.  It won’t add bulk to your boobs but will hold them in the right position.  A strapless bra is probably not gonna cut it… boning from the waist to the bust will help hold you up.

    woah woah woah.  Just read your last post.  I’m sorry you are feeling shitty about this, but there has been no attacks.  I never comment on all those ugly ass dresses I see on here, but I thought, as a plus sized girl, I would offer some suggestions that helped the dresses look right.  Go look at my threads, I’m no small lady.  So I understand sample size v real size and how that changes a dress.  My point is if you went in with the right artillery, you will be able to see how the dress will look on you.  Do I think the first 2 are made for super skinny athletic girls, yeah.  Not because of how you look, but the lack of support. The 3rd is pretty, and if it were me, I might order it if I felt I could get the right undergarments to hold everything in place.  

    Post # 53
    49 posts

    My vote is for the beaded dress, but I think they’re all pretty! I would be too nervous to go #3 without trying on.  

    If you’re still struggling with absolutely loving something and you really like Watters, I’m curious if you tried on any Watters/Wtoo separates? The corset tops provide a lot more structure and support and the Effie and Nori skirts are really similar to what you have here. I was going for a similar style to your pictures but nothing was fitting me in the right places until I tried on these separates. You can adjust so the skirt hits you perfectly at your natural waist line and it just made such a difference. I went from feeling really blah and over it to loving the look I was getting. Just another option to consider! 

    Post # 54
    9333 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m sorry you’re so upset by the responses. I’m larger chested too so I get that it’s frustrating, but I do feel these show a bit too much skin for a wedding in general. If you feel differently—that’s okay! It’s your wedding. You know your fiance and your audience, we don’t. 

    I would suggest going back to the store and actually doing the tape or whatever your plan is, and seeing how you feel then. If it’s only the two dresses it shouldn’t be too time consuming. 

    I personally wear a long line corseted bra when I wear dresses like this. It gives support and is slimming at the same time. And my wedding dress was a sweetheart neckline with boning in the bodice, and I just had some thin cups sewn in which worked great for my larger chest.

    Post # 55
    2926 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    OP, I think you’re being way too sensitive.

    I don’t give my opinion on most dress posts for the reason that most Bees don’t really want opinions.  They want people to say oh yeah, you look gorgeous.  I didn’t even post my own choices.

    If those are the types of dresses you love, fine, rock it.  But you made a POLL asking which option looks best, and the Bees were being constructive – I did not see ANY comments shaming your body – and giving alternate choices or ideas of how to make the dresses fit better.


    Post # 56
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

    I think A has potential if you can restructure the top a bit (edit: just saw this is a sample: it’ll be pretty once it’s fitted to you). C night be nice too, but I’d be nervous about ordering a dress without free returns. Good luck!

    Post # 57
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee

    LOL, I cannot photoshop so I drew.

    Here, I just dropped the waist on your first dress, outlined your figure in white so that it is unaltered in your natural shape, and “moved” the straps up to where they would sit naturally on your shoulders if this were fitted to your bustline. I made some lines where you’d have more upper volume with tape or otherwise perk yourself up with your magic. This is what I mean by picking a dress that gives your natural shape just a touch more flattering appeal (if you can see in my horrible example) simply by picking elements on a gown. There was nothing intending insults, and if you model and want to show off your bust on your wedding, do it in whatever way makes you feel great.

    Post # 59
    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

    I recommend you get the same dress as me!  You send in your measurements and you can order the neckline however you want it to fall.


    If you look through the customer images, I think you’ll find that on women with a similar build to you, it’s a stunning dress (imo).

    Post # 60
    2422 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    pantsapocalypse :  I am a GG so I totally understand your struggle!!

    I LOVE the third dress and I think if you order it a few sizes up they can tailor the bust area to fit appropriately and then obviously take in the rest of the dress. Keep us updated with what you choose! 

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