Post # 1
Please, any suggestions are greatly appreciated. My Fiance and I are getting married in 12 days… My Dad passed away earlier this year… and my dear grandfather is stepping in for my Dad and walking me down the aisle… “Normally” when the minister asks who gives this woman to be married to this man… the brides’ parents would respond… seeing as how my Grandpa is walking me down the aisle and my Dad has passed away… I’m not sure who should respond to the question. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
Your grandpa could say “her family and I do” since I assume your mother/family is/are still in the picture?
Post # 4
You can skip this part, if you’d like. He can just kiss you on the cheek and pass you off to your fiance. Or have your mother say something (is she in the picture?) or your grandfather can speak for your parents.
Post # 5
I’m very sorry to hear about your fathers passing, i know this must be a difficult milestone to have without his physical presence. i was thinking something along the lines of, ….in the spirit of her beloved father, i do…. for your grandfather to say. and if your mother is part of the wedding, she can give you away as well.
Post # 6
Yes, my Mom is still with us. This has been a very hard day to plan without my Dad. thank you for your kind words.
Post # 7
I agree with @FutureMrsJohnson_: in saying, “her family and I do” Sorry to hear about your dad. My prayers are with you.
Post # 8
An updated version of this question can be to the entire “congregation” in general: “Who supports this couple in their marriage?”
Then whoever is standing with you, your close family/friends, or everyone in attendance can answer, “We do.”
Post # 9
@july_rwatson: I tell grandfathers/person giving away the bride or groom to answer with “I have the honor of giving her or him away”.
Would you consider a slightly different question…. “Who supports this marriage?” I use this when the couple does not like the idea of being given away. The family and/or friends then answer “We Do”.
Post # 10
My dad is still alive and I plan on skipping that part. My dad is just going to walk me down the aisle and then take his seat.
Post # 11
I’m in a similar situation and my uncle is walking me down the aisle. Once we get to the front, he’s kissing me, shaking FI’s hand and taking a seat in the second pew. My mom will be standing in the first aisle and will stay standing until the pastor asks the question at which time she will answer, kiss me, hug Fiance and sit down.
I admit that I feel a bit like a football being passed from relative to relative, but given the situation, it feels ‘right’.
Post # 13
Get some ideas of what you’d like and go over it with your family and pastor at your rehearsal. I’m sure they’ll all support whatever you decide. *hugs* That’s got to be tough.