(Closed) HELP! Who to respond when our minister asks "Who gives this woman…"

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Your grandpa could say “her family and I do” since I assume your mother/family is/are still in the picture?

Post # 4
5039 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

You can skip this part, if you’d like. He can just kiss you on the cheek and pass you off to your fiance. Or have your mother say something (is she in the picture?) or your grandfather can speak for your parents. 

Post # 5
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m very sorry to hear about your fathers passing, i know this must be a difficult milestone to have without his physical presence. i was thinking something along the lines of, ….in the spirit of her beloved father, i do…. for your grandfather to say. and if your mother is part of the wedding, she can give you away as well.

Post # 7
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with @FutureMrsJohnson_:  in saying, “her family and I do” Sorry to hear about your dad. My prayers are with you. 

Post # 8
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

An updated version of this question can be to the entire “congregation” in general: “Who supports this couple in their marriage?”

Then whoever is standing with you, your close family/friends, or everyone in attendance can answer, “We do.” 

Post # 9
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

@july_rwatson: I tell grandfathers/person giving away the bride or groom to answer with “I have the honor of giving her or him away”.

Would you consider a slightly different question…. “Who supports this marriage?” I use this when the couple does not like the idea of being given away. The family and/or friends then answer “We Do”. 


Post # 10
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My dad is still alive and I plan on skipping that part. My dad is just going to walk me down the aisle and then take his seat.

Post # 11
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m in a similar situation and my uncle is walking me down the aisle.  Once we get to the front, he’s kissing me, shaking FI’s hand and taking a seat in the second pew.  My mom will be standing in the first aisle and will stay standing until the pastor asks the question at which time she will answer, kiss me, hug Fiance and sit down.

I admit that I feel a bit like a football being passed from relative to relative, but given the situation, it feels ‘right’.

Post # 12
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Her family and I do.

Post # 13
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Get some ideas of what you’d like and go over it with your family and pastor at your rehearsal.  I’m sure they’ll all support whatever you decide.  *hugs*  That’s got to be tough.

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