(Closed) Help! Who to tip??

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This has been discussed several times. Here are some links to help you out.

I too am having a lot of family members help out, and while I don’t plan to give them $$ I do plan on getting them each a small gift to show my appreciation even a written thank you note will be extremely appreciated.

Photographers, you generally dont tip them if its their own business, but you could always tip the assistants.

The owner I would probably only tip if you feel she goes above and beyond.






Hope that helps!

Post # 6
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’d chat with your uncle about the band, and what might be some nice gesture for them.  For our band (family friend) we paid a reduced fee, but also made sure they had plenty of food, a quiet break table, and a few extra bottles of alcohol, which made them very happy.  Your uncle probably knows them pretty well and could suggest a restaurant or music store or some other place they frequent where you could get a little gift card, or maybe some physical item they might like.  Even just a nice thank you to send to each of them afterward would suffice…in my opinion it’s more about the acknowledgement and thanks than the money spent.


Post # 7
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I’m guessing that since yours is a special situation, and you are using family for much of the preparations, money is an issue. I personally wouldn’t tip any family members.. I would assume they are helping out of love.. a nice thank-you gift would probably be a good gesture.. on maybe a thank you brunch after the wedding.

I would definitely tip the photogs and the lady who owns the reception site, if she will be helping a great deal, if your florist is a friend.. I would just invite her to the thank you brunch or give her a thank you gift.. if you don’t know her that well I would tip her.


I definitely dont think any of your friends/family will expect anything from you in return since they will already know your special situations regarding the wedding… but like I said above, showing your thanks would be appreciated by them!!

These are just my opinions. hope they help! Good luck!

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