Post # 1
Okay, so I’m about 6 weeks out from my wedding day, and I don’t know what to do about ushers!
I’m an only child, so I don’t have a brother to walk my mom down. I know some people have the FOB walk the mother down, too (they’re still married), but I only want him to walk me down. 🙂 So, I don’t know what to do! Some people are telling me that ushers do not have to be close to the mother in any way, but others tell me that they should. I agree that it could be a little awkward walking with someone you don’t really know… but what do you all think?
Secondly, I know you need an usher for the MOB, but what about the groom’s mother? His parents are also still married. Do they walk down together, or does an usher walk her down and her husband walks behind? I’ve seen both ways. Same with grandparents.
What do I do?! Please give your input!
Post # 3
@GonnaBeMrsC: My husband walked the ‘special’ family in that wasnt a part of the wedding party: his mother (boyfriend walked in behind them, father is deceased), grandmother, sisters and my mother and grandparents (seperately of course)
Post # 4
@GonnaBeMrsC: The groom sometimes does it, as PP said, or the head usher. The head usher is a groomsman other than the Bridesmaid or Best Man most of the time, so that the best man can be there to support the groom.
It also depends if seating the MoB and MoG is a prelude to the procession, or they are just seated prior to the ceremony like anyone else. So … how are you doing that? Are the parents being seated as sort of a part of the ceremony (i.e. everyone else is seated, and not the parents are ushed to their seats) or are they just going to be seated when they arrive?
Post # 5
My mom was escorted down the aisle by one of our ushers, who she’d never met before that weekend. I wish I’d just had my dad walk her down and then make his way back down a side aisle though – wouldve been a better picture than her with a random (although beloved) friend of mine. My husbands father and mother walked down together.
Post # 6
My husband walked my mother on one arm and his mother on the other, which was the first part of the ceremony. All the guests had been seated prior to their walking down the aisle. (FIL is deceased.)
Post # 7
I’m asking my brother-in-law (my sister’s husband) to walk my mother in. His wife, my sister, is a bridesmaid and his daughter, my niece, is a flower girl, so if he was already inside with the rest of the guests he’d be the only one in the family! Plus, he’s definitely part of my family and I want him to be a special part of my wedding day, and this seems like the perfect place for him. And an added bonus, he’ll be in the back to help wrangle his daughter (who will be not quite 2 at the time) up until the last minute.
Do you have a good friend, or maybe a cousin or other relative who would be sitting near your mom anyway, and it would be convenient for them to be the one escorting her in?
Post # 8
I think my mom sat herself lol. I’m not really sure if someone walked her, or if they didn’t. My dad was waiting for me to come down to start the processional, so I doubt he did.
I’d just ask your mom if/who she wants to seat her, and if she wants it to be part of the ceremony or not.
Post # 9
We have decided to have the groom walk my mother in, which is sweet because he is her new son. She doesn’t have one. 🙂 The groom’s mother will be walked in by her oldest son. We would’ve had the groom do both, but I didn’t really want him walking up and down the aisle. His brother, who is walking his mother in, is the best man, and I know some people are against the best man ushering, but he will only be walking his mother down, which I think is a little different — very special.
Thanks to all of you for the great info! 🙂