(Closed) Help with a bridesmaid :(

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having troubles with her. I think you just need to put your foot down and be straight with her. Tell her that although you appreciate her input, this is your wedding and you have a vision that you are going for. Let her know that if she doesn’t like it, you would prefer that she keep her opinions to herself.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

ya, i think just avoiding talking about the wedding is your best bet.  i had to do that do because i just didnt like it when other people didn’t like my ideas. everyone has different opinions,  but this is your wedding, so your ideas get the most weight and you get the final say!

if she start pressuring you for details, you have the phrase “oh, i haven’t made a decision about that yet” to fall back on.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yowza.  This is why I vow to be the most complacent, obedient, unopinionated bridesmaid in the world!  I agree about telling her firmly that she is doesn’t have decision-making power at your wedding,  I also agree you should try to avoid talking to her about the wedding.  Do you have a mutual friend or someone who can lovingly be like, “hey, come on now, it’s ultimately up to raekae”?

Post # 6
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

definitely talk to her and explain what is important to you for your day. tell her you appreciate her ideas and you’ll consider them, but in the end it’s your decision and you’ll decide on what you and your fiance like best. Some things that she may not be happy about she’s going to have to suck it up and support your decision.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@raekae: Relax, take a deep breath. Confrontation is never fun, but she really needs to understand how you feel. In the end your wedding will be wonderful. i hope shopping went well.

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