Post # 1
Having BM’s issues.
How does everyone feel about having your bridesmaid have professional make up? This is at their expense.
Out of my 6 girls, only one girl feels that I am being unreasonable because I am asking them to get their make up done. She is also the one that has been the most distant and apathetic about mywhole wedding. Not to mention, when she had her own, she asked everyone to dig into their pockets more than more most brides have…
Has anyone had this issue? I really feel that professional make up looks best, especially in photographs. How do I relay this without looking like a bridezilla (which I’m honestly NOT!)
Post # 3
Usually the rule of thumb around here is…if you are requiring it, then you should foot the bill.
Post # 4
prncessdva is right. it is too much to ask a bridesmaid to get her hair or makeup professionally done after all they are already doing. if you are insisting she get it done, you should cover the expense. p.s. the others might not be voicing their dissent simply because they don’t want to rock the boat, but they may feel this same way too.
Post # 5
I’m with PrncssDva. You’re already asking for them to pay for a lot, too, and professional makeup is pretty expensive. Have you considered having a Mary Kay consultant come and do it? They usually charge way less, and it could be a good compromise.
Post # 6
if you ask them to get their makeup done, you need to pay for it. if you don’t want to pay for it, give them the option of using your makeup artist, but don’t tell them it’s required.
Post # 7
Same vote for me. And I couldn’t support it more. I am one who feels pretty confident in being able to do my own makeup. So if a bride really wants my makeup done, I would be unhappy to say the least, if she expected me to pay for it.
Post # 8
sigh. i really want my BMs to get hair and makeup done, but don’t think i can afford it so i cant ask them to. i plan to send them the prices and ask them to let me know if they want me to make appts for them.
Post # 9
The last wedding I was in it was suggested we get our makeup done – but not required. I dont wear a lot of makeup and have sensitive skin so I really didnt want to do the professional makeup. The bride understood and didnt pressure everyone to use it. I just bumped up my regular makeup and I dont think there was much of a difference between my makeup that day and the others. (and also in my opinion, i wasnt a big fan of what they had done so i was really happy i didnt pay $100 bucks for something that I would have washed off at the end of the night)
Post # 10
If they want to do it, they can. If you require it, you have to pay for it. Even if a make up artist does it, it doesn’t guarantee that you’ll like how the Bridesmaid or Best Man make up looks. btw, Sephora offers wedding day make up now, too. I think it only requires a $50 purchase.
Post # 11
If you want it – you pay for it. That’s just the way it is.
Post # 12
I am giving a day of pampering (including hair and makeup) to my bridesmaid for her gift (I only have one bridesmaid)… What girl doesn’t like to feel like a movie star! Maybe you could make it her gift???
Post # 13
I know it sucks because she is the only one who has an issue about it. But maybe her financial situation has changed and she can’t do it, or does not want to. If you are making them use a professional, then you should really pay for it. But if it’s just a suggestion and either way works, then they have their choice to pay or not pay. Since she will be the only one left out, you should probably pay for her. There is no great way to solve this, especially if she can’t afford to do it.
Post # 14
I agree with everyone else. if its a big deal to you then you have to pay for it. I don’t think bridesmaids should be forced to pay for their professional makeup.
Post # 15
She does not have to pay for it at all if she doesn’t want to. If you want her to because it’s important for you, then you pay for it and I’m sure she’ll be fine.
Post # 16
If you are requiring it you need to pay for it.