Post # 1
I just got married 5 months ago and my best friend, who was also my maid of honor, just got engaged about a month ago. I was so happy when i heard the news and when i when i went to visit her to congratulate her she took my left hand and put it next to her left hand and compared my ring to hers. I have a princess cut 1.25 ct. and i love my ring, but ever since she did that i have been feeling bad about my ring. I know it sounds silly. I don’t know why she did that. Some of my friends, when they heard the story, told me that she was probably comparing to see if hers was real, cause it actually looks fake. I am not an expert in diamonds. I think hers is pretty. Ever since that happened my relationship with her got a little weird. I just don’t get it. Any comments or advices?
Post # 3
Maybe she wanted to see the difference. It isnt bad just a girl thing. Dont let it bother you or hurt your relationship just enjoy ur rock!!! I would love to have a 1.25 princess I have a 1ct now.
Post # 4
Maybe she had a feeling hers wasn’t real and wanted to compare to yours. If your friends say it looks fake, maybe she thought so too. Regardless of what the reason was, all I can think of to do is try to act like nothing happened. There’s no reason this should ruin your friendship, especially when you have no idea why she did that and you think enough of her to have made her your Maid/Matron of Honor. Try to let it go and initiate a conversation with her about something else, like planning her wedding!
Post # 5
It’s a weird thing to do, but worth giving her the benefit of the doubt in this case. Why did the incident make you feel bad about your ring?
Post # 6
If you want to know why she did it you need to ask. Save the friendship and spare your own feelings by being honest with her.
Post # 7
I assume that because you say that you feel badly about your ring, that her’s is bigger?
I really do think that she wasn’t comparing size but style/gold type etc etc Just looking at the two. Or perhaps it was a, hey look we are both engaged!! Kind of thing?
It’s hard to know without more information.
However, if this is the only time that she has “compared” them and she hasn’t said any nasty comments about your ring or its size, then I would forget about it and move on. It doesn’t sound like she was doing anything to be mean.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t think too much of it, my best friend/moh did the same when she got engaged, like a “wow, look at us all grown up!” kind of thing.
Post # 9
My married friends and I (still engaged) compare rings all the time…we try each other’s on…et cetera. When I first got engaged one of the first people at work I told was also engaged, and our rings are very similar…we compared them and laughed and congratulated each other.
I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 10
Uhhhh, I might be wrong….but you could ask her…..? It was probably her trying to do a cute little thing, like yay! But I could be wrong…..either way it’s not worth worrying over.
Post # 11
I think you’re reading too much into it. When my girl-pals and I get the same new thing, we often put them together so we’re manicure twins, shoe twins, whatever. It’s not to compare them; just o enjoy that hey, we’ve both got shiny new rings!!! Sounds like a silly but friendly gesture and nothing more.
Post # 12
@peachacid: Ditto! Comparing and holding up rings kind of came up organically with my friends (& sister!)…I didn’t think anything of it. The only time I found it slightly odd, is when one of my BMs (engaged) held up her ring next to my upgrade and said something to her fiance, but I let it go. Not worth being upset about, it’s natural to compare.
Post # 13
@Nona99: Thank you, that is what I was thinking. Why worry when you could just ask her and get an answer right from the horse’s mouth.
Post # 14
Definately an innocent move. She’s just beiNF happy that she get a bling too. Is it because her diamond is bigger? Would you have thought nothing of this if your diamond came out “the winner”
Post # 15
@Evenj0404: All my married friends did this when I got engaged. We all have different shaped engagement rings and it was fun to look at the differences! We also all try on each other’s rings. So I think you might have read way too much into it, however I don’t know your friend.
Post # 16
That’s pretty weird, but you should just ask her about it. How does it look fake? I don’t know about you, but I couldn’t tell a CZ from a diamond when my stone was stolen (described in another post… long sad story) while at the jeweler. I didn’t know until I brought it in again to be sized and they looked at it under the scope.