(Closed) help with a shambles of a marriage

posted 3 months ago in Married Life
Post # 181
Member
8758 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

The time to stand up to someone is right there when things are happening. Not three years down the line when their son kills himself. 

And they didn’t burst into your home, they were in THEIR OWN HOME and upset because you apparently don’t clean up after yourself. The more you post the more it seems like these people probably didn’t do anything all that wrong but you’ve embellished it to look as bad as possible (like how it was your home he burst into the past twenty pages and now we find out actually you were living with your Father-In-Law so no bursting into others homes happened) because you want people to feel bad for you. 

The more you post the more innocent your husband and his family is looking, so please continue to dig that hole. 

Post # 183
Member
8758 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

siara99 :  Also, I literally just took a new job in December of 2017 (while 6 months pregnant I might add). So no, not impossible.

Post # 184
Member
3586 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

siara99 :  

Ok enough with that. No more they did this, I did that blah blah blah. It’s all said and done.

How are you going to move forward now? You hate this man, you hate his family, and you have zero empathy for him or them.

Why are you still thinking divorce is not the best move?

Post # 185
Member
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 

slomotion :  100% agree. TBH I am not surprised the SIL was a bit wary of her. From her POV her brother brings home a younger woman, straight out of uni, who seems to have a lot of baggage and marries her in 6 months. I’d be thinking gold digger, or visa or an oopsie pregnancy. It also doesn’t sound like the OP did anything to try and ‘win over’ her in laws.

Post # 186
Member
8758 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

He can do whatever he wants in his own house. Don’t like it, don’t live there. 

And if the dishes were clean and you were 100% innocent then why was he even upset? Other than he’s drunk and horrible and everyone is mean to you. 

Post # 187
Member
216 posts
Helper bee

OP, you are the victim of everything. Nothing was ever your fault. Everyone around you was abusive or unsupportive.

You display exactly the mental maturity of a toddler who can type. I hate to say this but I actually hope your husband gets sole custody of your kids, as you are nowhere near mature enough for adult life. 

Post # 188
Member
5986 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

OP is so deranged. It would be funny if there wasn’t an innocent child (and another on the way!) in all of this. 

She seems to think her lack of empathy is completely normal. It is…if you’re a serial killer. Most everybody else can empathize even with STRANGERS (shocking I know)!!

Post # 191
Member
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

siara99 :  Again no, your husband didn’t make you move. He didn’t put you in a box and carry you there. You chose to move.

We are not attacking you or trying to be mean, but you need some tough love right now. You need therapy.

We are internet strangers, we are seeing your behaviour in a different light to how you are viewing it. We are giving different perspectives. I suggest you talk this over with a good therapist and break the cycle of abuse.

Post # 192
Hostess
12036 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Closing this due to on going complaints from the OP. 

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