Post # 1
Hi brides! I am working on a project for work and I actually wanted to get your valuable insights. Everybody talks about wedding planning being tedious and stressful which can be true at times, but when it comes down to it, would you say you enjoyed or are enjoying the planning? <br />Will you be sad when it is over?<br />Would you want to do it all over again (not talking about getting married a second time)?<br /><br />Thank you for all your help!!
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by milady.
Post # 2
I enjoyed some aspects, definitely not the whole process. But with the way everything turned out, I would absolutely do it again in a heartbeat. It was worth it.
I was sad when it was over because I don’t know when we will have all our family and friends in one place again.
Post # 3
milady: I am loving the planning process! There were a few vendors I could’ve NOT contacted, but overall it is an awesome experience for us. I will be sad when the wedding is over, so FI convinced me to postpone the honeymoon so I’ll have more stuff to plan after we’re married lol
Post # 4
I did generally enjoy the planning and miss having it to work on. The guest list and working with a budget I found to be the most stressful. I wouldn’t want to plan mine again but would love to take on someone else’s wedding and plan it all (I feel the same with houses and stuff. There are so many ideas I love I have a hard time committing myself to just one but you can try so many different things if you do it over and over for different people).
Post # 5
I never really thought about wedding details until I actually got engaged, so I’ve never had any particular expectations for the wedding. So far it’s been fun looking at all the possibilities, and FI and I have similar views to the wedding, which keeps it fun too. I’m still several months away from the wedding celebration, but I can foresee at least some conflicts with my mom over how we want to do the wedding, but ultimately, it should (hopefully) be fine.
Post # 6
Thank you for all the helpful replies. Any other thoughts?
Post # 7
I really enjoyed it, but the fact that we had extremely responsive and reliable vendors helped. I also had input from my now DH on certain aspects while he made it clear that there were others he had absolutely no preference on. I also did not DIY anything because I am terrible at that stuff and hate doing it, so Etsy was my best friend 🙂
I don’t miss it and don’t want to do it again. As much as I loved planning all the little details and seeing everything come to life on our special day, I think dwelling on something like that beyond being reminiscent is unhealthy. We have other things to look forward to, so definitely not sad.
Post # 8
milady: I’ll be the negative one 🙂 my biggest thing I looked forward to with the wedding was obviously being married to FI and having all of our family and friends. however.. after the planning process, I get upset I research and then it doesn’t turn out the way I thought and there are many times that I think I can’t wait for our wedding so that this is over with. I’m cheap I cut corners and I could care less about all the extras and even if my parents are nice enough to pay… They also go from one extreme to the next. Dad told me I want you to have a good wedding but I would like to stop working before I die…(Thanks dad…).mom told me since they didn’t pay for college to not worry about the cost so much, then turns around and says that she couldn’t believe photographers cost that much, I tried to talk to them about a budget and didnt get an answer so I just cut a lot of things out, then mom tells me my dad is now stressed out because he doesn’t want to look cheap.. I can’t win. I think my personality would have been better off with a afternoon wedding, destination wedding or backyard wedding. Traditional evening wedding not so much.
Post # 9
milady: would you say you enjoyed or are enjoying the planning? Yes… for the most part. I love knowing that all this work will lead to a fantastic day with our family and friends. I also love knowing that my fiance did this together as a starting point of a new journey. I liked planning and dealing with the vendors and shopping. The only thing I hated was that there were some vendors that were not as honest as we thought when we booked them (dealing with that now). We lost money because of it.
Will you be sad when it is over? No I am really looking forward to the honeymoon, graduating, getting a house, and starting our family. Wedding planning is not my life- my fiance is what is important.
Would you want to do it all over again (not talking about getting married a second time)? Maybe? I wouldn’t mind a vow renewal that was small on a beach or helping with my friends’ weddings. I would not want to go through this entire process for myself again <br /><br /><br />