(Closed) Help with an engagement ring for my girlfriend

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Hmmm this is a hard one! If it were me, personally I would be honored to wear an heirloom ring. I also like the sapphire ring in white gold more than yellow. I dont know your girlfriends taste but the sentimentality of giving her a family ring is really sweet. Hope this helps a little 🙂 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A very hard question indeed! I can tell you the my Fiance and I had VERY different ideas of what an engagement ring should be. He thought a diamond was the only way to go and was convinced that no other ring could be sufficient… Until my grandmother offered him her engagement ring. An emerald from 1946. He was so surprised that hardly anyone’s in my family (save my sister, whose diamond was an heirloom) had a diamond engagement ring. I fell madly in love with a 1940s sapphire from an antique shop And thus is the ring on my finger today.

 

of course, I’m a sucker for heirlooms. Your girlfriend might not be and that’s something you need to find out. I’ll tell you as a gemstone engagement ring wearer, I’ve had some moments where I doubt my ring, as many have bigger stones, or diamonds. Do people think we’re less blessed, or do they think its not good enough, but I always remember my grandma saying that her emerald was the most brilliant stone in the world because it was from her Joe… But again,  emeralds were her style.

 

Know her style and her taste. If she’s a diamond chick, take it into consideration. If she’s a lover of rubies, well, technically a sapphire is just a blue ruby, but ask! I’m sure a gal with a thoughtful boyfriend like you would say yes to a piece of string! Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

WOW It’s gorgeous, I’d be so honored to wear it if I were her, in either white or yellow, though the white really makes it sparkle and gives it a slightly more modern edge to a vintage image she might appreciate, I think it makes it stand out in a lovely way. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

@strobist:  “My real plan was buying an engagement ring with a diamond and little diamonds on the side which was what she was asking for

 

This really says it all to me. No offense to any heirloom lovers out there, but my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and if he proposed with a heirloom sapphire, I would be disappointed. I love heirlooms- but not as my ering. If she has already told you what she wants, I would definitely go with that. You could always give her the heirloom ring as an anniversary gift 10 years down the line, it isn’t going anywhere.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would have been very upset if my husband asked me what kind of ring I wanted and I told him what I wanted exactly and he gave me his grandma’s ring instead. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

What if you bought your girlfriend a ring in the style she wants, and then your mother gives her the heirloom ring as a gift before your wedding as her “something blue” and a sort of “welcome to the family” type of gift? Best of both worlds! She can wear the sapphire on her right hand and the one you give her on her left 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

That’s a gorgeous ring. I prefer it in yellow gold myself, and I’d prefer that heirloom ring than a new one (even though I LOVE diamond). But that’s me.

There’s only one way to know which your girlfriend would really prefer… ask her.

The proposal itself can still be a surprise, but I would suggest you ask her what she thinks of heirloom rings and blue sapphires. You can throw some false leads in there if you like. If she would LOVE the thought of an heirloom ring and likes sapphires, you know to go with your grandmother’s ring. If she thinks heirloom rings are a nice idea…for other people…and same with sapphires…. then you know to go with the new diamond ring you had planned.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Honestly, if I were her, I would not be happy with the heirloom ring although it is beautiful because that is not what I asked for. Like other folks said, you can always give her the heirloom as a gift from the family and if it were me, I would like that better. If it were me, I would tell you I loved it at first but secretly resent you for not doing what I asked for and then blurt it out months later only to make you upset with me.

I personally would love an heirloom ring though. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would give her what she wanted for the engagement ring, then save this one for a future anniversary/other gift. I love @geekchic’s idea too.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sounds to me like she wouldn’t be happy with any other other than a diamind ring since that’s what she wants.  But you should talk to her as PPs have said.  :). Good luck!

do you have a photo of the ring she wants?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i love love love love this ring (I actually like it in gold though so we might have completely different tastes)

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

you could always propose to her with this ring as-is and then let her decide what she wants to do?

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