(Closed) Help with asha! anyone have an emerald cut large asha/betterthandiamond?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 1
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59 posts
Worker bee

Hi everyone!

I found this site earlier today, and am so glad I did!  I am getting engaged this spring to my bf of 5 years. 

Finding and engagement ring that I LOVE is becoming quite the process!!!!!!!! 🙁

I need some help and advice about what I think is my final choice.  I have decided to go with an asha Krupps cut stone (it’s like an emerald) in the 2.75 carat 9×7 and the setting I want to put it in is the timeless tapered baguettes in platinum :

http://betterthandiamond.com/products/Asha-Krupps-cut.html

http://betterthandiamond.com/products/Timeless-Tapered-Baguettes-Semi%252dMount.html

Here’s the thing.  This ring is my DREAMMMM ring.  I have wanted a BIG gorgeous emerald type cut engagement ring since I first ever even thought about boys! 🙂

BUT, I’m concerned because I’m hearing that if you go with a simulant, bigger is not better.  However, truly, no joke this is the size I want!  My ring size is 6.  Also, I adore jewellery and have lot’s of substantial pieces so, I think I can pull off the bigger centre.  Lifestyle/employment wise, both my future fiancee and I make very good money.  We could afford to get the same thing in a real diamond, but I think that it’s dumb to spend that much on just a ring!  I mean my DREAM ring would be around $40,000!!!!  

The most the bf and I were looking to spend on the engagement ring is 13,000.  In that price range, I am not finding my dream ring – seriously, I think many of the ones in that price range are nice, but I’m not really ecstatic about them, and when I saw the asha, I thought hey this is my dream ring and it  looks real. 

Any advice?  Has anyone bought or seen the asha emerald or Krupps cut in person?  Is 9×7 just ridiculous or should I even care?  If it’s bigger, does it look fake in the sense that it looks less sparkly and more plastic-ey??????

By The Way, from what I read on the boards so far about asha, people were really happy, but some of the posts are old so I could pull up the pictures. 

Thanks 🙂  

PS , really love these boards so far!

 

Post # 3
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111 posts
Blushing bee

For an engagement ring, personally I would not want to buy a fake ring. If you can’t justify buying a big rock, get something that you feel comfortable with. An engagement ring is not to impress other people, it should be something special,something sacred, straight from your FI’s heart.

If you wish to have a HUGE simulant ring for show, get a cocktail ring. For me, an engagement ring should be real.

 

 

Post # 4
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Newbee

@twinsugar:

Ooh – ring shopping is so much fun!  I don’t have any experience with Asha, but I wanted to support you on your decision to go with a diamond alternative.

Contrary to another post here, I think that an Asha engagement ring, or any non-diamond engagement ring, is wonderful, definitely not fake.  No matter what it is made of, it is special, sacred, and straight from your FI’s heart.  Engagement rings are not investment pieces, they are a symbol of love and commitment.  

Saving money on a ring is smart, sensible, and can be compassionate.  The money you save can be better spent on your future, and or given to charity.  Some would say that diamonds represent African militia and child labor, a monopolized industry, and negative environmental impacts.  Disclaimer – diamond ladies – we all pick our battles, don’t feel bad.  

Diamonds aren’t rare.  If anything Asha is more rare than a diamond.  Also, Ashas in the size you are looking for can be more beautiful than a diamond because they have less (or no) inclusions or are near colorless.

The ring you described sounds breathtakingly beautiful.  I hope when you get it you will hurry back and post some hand shots!

 

Post # 5
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Mommalita: If she wants a big ring, I don’t see why she shouldn’t get one. She seems comfortable enough with the idea of wearing a big stone and it even sounds like she could afford a large diamond, she just doesn’t want to spend the money (which sounds practical and level headed to me)! It seems like she wants it for herself, not for show. If she can have all the same sparkle and beauty of a diamond and pay just a fraction of the cost, why the heck shouldn’t she do it?

OP: I say go big if that’s what you want!

I don’t own Asha (I went with Moissy and I LOVE it!) but I have heard nothing but good things about it.

Post # 6
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mommalita: A real what? A ring is a symbol of the promise. It can be a twisty tie or a tattoo. Asha is just an alt. stone. 

OP-I suggest visiting the betterthandiamond.com forums. I don’t have an Asha. We went with moissanite. Get what you want and don’t let haters bring you down. 

Post # 7
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Buy and wear proudly whatever you love!

Post # 8
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went with a big moissanite too, and i absolutely adore it. I love the fact that I chose something that wasn’t a diamond (for all the obvious reasons), didn’t have to spend my life savings on it, and i get SO many compliments!! I almost feel bad when I don’t tell them its Moissanite. I don’t have any experience with the Asha, but take a jump if you’d like 🙂

Post # 9
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have been looking at moissanites and love that you posted this, I never would have known about them. Sorry no experience with asha, but I can’t wait to check them out!

Post # 10
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32 posts
Newbee

Do what makes you and your future Fiance happy!

Make sure you do lots of research though! I looked into Asha briefly but I just couldn’t commit to it because I have gotten CZ in the past for right hand rings (not a good quality like Asha though) and they went cloudy very quickly. I haven’t see Asha in real life and am not sure if it would cloud eventually like other CZ`s, but that would certainly be something to look into!

(On a side note, like other posters said, just because its not diamond doesn’t make it a ‘fake ring’.

I use to be judgmental about non-diamond engagement rings when the topic of engagement first came up in my relationship… But then I realized that an engagement ring is not requirement for a happy marriage, what he spends on it doesn’t represent how much he loves me, and if anything a wedding band is much more meaningful to me (my opinion of course).)

Post # 11
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59 posts
Worker bee

Hi!! Thanks for the comments 🙂

 

@mommalita, I already have a couple really nice 14mm DY cocktail rings, so I was thinking that my while my engagement ring should be different from the big blingy cocktail rings I have for my right hand, I still want my dream quasi big engagement ring.  

 

I am going to def discuss this further with the bf, because I’m really leaning towards the asha.  I mean, when I was looking at the smaller REAL diamonds in our budget, I started getting a headache; I literally thought to myself, why can’t I JUST get engaged.  The proposal and being with my boyfriend are the most important.  But at the same time, why end up wasting money on something that I love because my bf got it for me, why not get something that I love because my bf got it for me AND because he got me my dream ring. 

Thanks so much for the feedback!!!  feel free to add more 🙂

 

Post # 12
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59 posts
Worker bee

@Shoe: EXACTLY!!!  I saw a really beautiful wedding band at van cleef and arpels when I was in Vegas over Christmas, and I’d rather get that band over spending so much on the engagement ring that the band gets totally settled on. 

And thanks, for mentioning the cloudy thing, I’ll definitely research that more.

Post # 13
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Asha is nice. I had a pear cut. I don’t think anyone will know it’s fake, if that’s your concern. No one could tell with mine. It’s not like regular CZ. I considered getting the emerald cut but it never happened. I’m still thinking about an asha synthetic emerald in emerald cut. It’s my birthstone.

If you can afford it then no one will know.  If you put it in a nice setting then no one will know. If it makes you happy then you should get it.

Don’t let other people’s feelings dissuade you from getting your dream ring. There are lots of really wealthy women who wear simulants for varying reasons.

Post # 14
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Newbee

Yay!  I love all the positive feedback for our OP!  

Twinsugar – go get your dream ring and never look back.  You sound like a stylish, high self-esteem, and clever woman who sets trends instead of follows them.  Who knows?  Maybe in a couple of years all your friends will have Asha or Moissanite too and you can say you did it first.  Bravo 🙂

Post # 15
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

From what I have read on the btd forum, people really do love their ashas! I went with moissanite and don’t regret for a minute that I don’t have a diamond. My ring is not a fake, it is a REAL moissanite! 🙂 Sorry I can’t help you on the asha but I love when people go for alternatives to diamonds! Post pictures when you get your new ring! Smile

Post # 16
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My only question is that do you tell people that it is a differnent stone or just pretend it is a diamond?  I had never heard of either of those stones before. 

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