(Closed) Help with Best Man

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m confused as to why you are obligated to pay for her?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would stick your ground, if he wants her to come he pays not you. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

It sounds like he really wasn’t mature enough to get married if he hates her one minute and talks badly of her, then is happy with her the next. You’re in no way responsible for thanking her for something he’s happy about. If he wants to thank her than he can pay for all her expenses. I do think you are obliged to invite her, since she is the wife of your best man/his brother, but you don’t have to pay for her hotel, gas, dress, or anything.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

this doesn’t make sense…he wants to thank her by YOU paying for her? how is that him thanking her?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Her dinner/place at the wedding, sure, but her gas, dress, and hotel? HELL NO!  Tell him she is now an invited guest, but just like other guests and +1s, they are responsible for getting there and she can wear a dress she already has. He needs to Get. Over. It!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

That sounds ridiculous! Regardless of the fact that he’s “down on his luck”, there is no reason for you guys to pay for her.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Seriously, if she wants or he wants her to come so badly then they better find the money to get her there and properly dressed.  You and your Fiance are not a money tree.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

A wedding is not a thank you dinner… and you dont ASK the bride/groom to pay for your wifes trip to said wedding.  They’re a married adult couple, if she wants to go, she can find a way to pay her own way, or not go… tons of people everyday have to make this decision and dont go asking the bride/groom to pay for the trip.  Don’t do it!!

Post # 13
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46413 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They are married. Their expenses are their own responsibility.

Post # 14
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Good Will has decent dresses if its that big a deal…or borrow one just don’t make the bride do it.

 

On another note – what right does your “Best Man” have to be upset that you said no?!? Sounds like your Fiance should maybe give him a reality check – either stop being a punk or don’t be the Best Man LOL

 

Good luck hun!

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