- 6 years ago
Hi, First before I begin, my wedding is July 27, 2013, so it’s going to be warm.
I want to share a little about my BM’s. My Matron of Honor is my mother-in-law. We are really close and get along great. However, I am not liking being told what we should do. Needless to say, it doesn’t help that my fiance is her only son. If she could have it her way we would be married in a court house, because that’s what she did. Sorry, I’m a little more classy than that, and I have a huge family, besides her son already decided to have it a venue because he also wants a big and traditional wedding.
My next Bridesmaid or Best Man is a really close friend but she is also the same age as my mother-in-law. So, I have two older bridesmaids. My other bridesmaids are a friend who is the same age as me (I am 30), and my sister who is 5 years younger.
The older bridesmaid have very different tastes in a style dress they want to wear and complain about showing off their arms, and their chests. My Maid/Matron of Honor, also wants a dress that she can wear a bra with and she wants to be the one to pick out the dress.
The two younger BM’s would wear a garbage bag, if that’s what I want them to wear, but they do not want me letting my Maid/Matron of Honor decide on the dress or the other older Bridesmaid or Best Man, as she has hippie/grandma taste in clothes.
I have thought about letting them pick their own dresses, but I have seen pictures that just look hideous if you let BM’s do that.
Basically, I have decided that I am going to have the two younger bm’s wear the dress of my choice, and have the Maid/Matron of Honor and the other older Bridesmaid or Best Man pick out their own dress to fit their comfort zone, as long as the dress is from the same designer, the same fabric, and color, as the younger BM’s dresses.
The problem with the color of the dress is I am looking for a light baby blue color and it’s hard to find a dress in that color in chiffon fabric in an elegant/ classy style.
The Maid/Matron of Honor is also trying to tell me that she wants an informal relaxing (like wearing sweatpants and have pizza for our rehearsal dinner) I think not! The older Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor are cheap in style, however, I am not. I am not cheap at all, in which I am really surprised, I found a wedding dress under $1,000.
I also want to be married in a church, but I am not a member to any church, and haven’t been to a church since 16. They are also trying to tell us because we are not church people we shouldn’t be married in a church. So we decided to just have our ceremony at the venue in their outside gazebo.
But there is a problem is they can only seat up to 75 ppl and when I walk out the door to the gazebo, everyone will be seated to my right because the building is on the left right next to the door, this is because of the way the gazebo is set up and I do not like the fact that everyone will only be able to see from our waste up because the rest of us will be blocked by a fence on the gazebo. I want to be able to walk through the middle of everyone.
( I am expecting at least 150ppl to show for the ceremony. We plan on having 400guests. Like I said my family is huge. 250 of that number is immediate family consisting of aunts, uncles, cousins, and whoever they bring with them. The other 100 are my fiance’s family, and the rest our really close friends.)
My wedding is a year away and I am really stressing over a few things. I’m not worried about decorations, food, or anything like that because the venue takes care of all of that–thank god!
Sorry I mumbled on about things, but I have a lot on my mind. And no one to really express my opinions too! My fiance is more than willing to go along with whatever I want.