Post # 1
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend and tonight after dress shopping for her we started talking about her bridal shower. SHe is in charge of mine (along with my cousin) and I know they are throwing me a huge fancy shower so I want to make sure hers is great too and return the favor. BUT, I have 7 bridesmaids she was able to split the tasks/costs with. She only has 3 (including myself). So that makes it tricky. AND her wedding is 6 weeks after mine (May 18Th) so were look at a shower in April, which is shortly after my wedding which means I am planning her shower and finishing planning my wedding at the same time. BOTh the other girls in her wedding are also in mine too. Very tricky. Her 1st idea was a brunch at a hotel like one of those tea party kind with the hats, and gloves and dresses……I LOVED this idea and said I would look into it. Until I realized…Who would pay? Do we ask the guests to pay for themselves? That’s poor etiquette right? Especially since her wedding is already out of town (in Palm Springs) and we still expect them to buy her a gift. So then I wanted to throw her that style in a house….BUT none of us have big enough houses……SO here’s my questions I need advice on:
1) Is it tacky to ask guests of a bridal shower to pay their own tab if it’s a luncheon at a restaurant?
2) Does ANYONE know of any of these types of places in Las Vegas I can call and get a price quote to see if it’s something the 3 of us can afford (it would be like 12 ladies).
3) Share your ideas for this kind of themed party if we decide to have it at a house. All ideas welcome and appreciated!
THanks in advance!!
Post # 3
Yes – it is very rude to ask guests of a bridal shower to pay their own tab, even if it’s at a restaurant. You are inviting them to an event, and as host, you are obligated to cover their tab. It’s understandable (but still iffy, to me) to not cover alcohol, but food and non-alcoholic beverages absolutely should be covered by the host.
Do you, or any of your friends, have access to a community center in an apartment complex? You and the BMs could share cooking duties and have it there. Otherwise, you might be stuck having to cover the restaurant costs.
Post # 4
The bride offered her house which is more than big enough and the girls would just do all the cooking/cleaning/decorating etc… I just felt bad having it at her house ya know But Ya I looked into the restaurant thing and its waaaayyyyy out of our price range for the 3 of us to split and still buy a cake, decorations, game prizes etc…. such a tough decision.
Post # 5
@mjwyatt84: I’d definitely take her up on the offer of using her house! It seems like your money will go a lot further without having to pay for restaurant meals. And a tea party theme could be pulled off beautifully – make finger sandwiches and little savory tarts, a few different kinds of tea or iced tea and lemonade, warm scones with clotted cream and preserves and petit fours or cupcakes for dessert. Look at thrift stores for pretty serving dishes, china plates and teacups – mismatched are fine!
Post # 6
I am also a bride in Vegas! there are a few ways you could make a totally intimate bridal shower with everything that she wants and could imagine by doingit at her home!