Post # 1
Here’s my issue. After I got engaged, I asked five of my friends and family to be bridesmaids for my wedding. One of my bridesmaids informed me during the holiday season that she is pregnant and is due two months before the wedding. Here’s my issue. We have picked out a strapless dress for the wedding. It does come with spaghetti straps that can be added on, but the majority of us agreed that it makes the dress look less elegant. My pregnant bridesmaid has stated that she wants straps because she will nursing her newborn. Well, I went back to the bridal boutique to try the dress on myself with spaghetti straps and with a thick halter strap. I’m okay with the halter, but I would still prefer the dress to be strapless.
Honestly, would a nursing mother’s breasts be stimulated that much from walking down the aisle to leak through the dress even with padding? I have told her that since the straps can be snapped on and off that I would like them snapped off for pictures. But I would also prefer they be unstrapped for the ceremony that way other people are not wondering why she is the only girl with straps?
What do I do?
Post # 3
You let her wear the straps because it’s more comfortable that way, not a big deal and people are not going to wonder why she’s the only one wearing straps.
Post # 4
Nobody is going to be wondering why one girl has straps. I bet if you quizzed your guests a week later they wouldn’t be able tell you what the bridesmaids dresses look like. Let her be as comfortable as she can be! I was in a bridal party of three and two girls wore the same strapless dres, I’m not comfortable in strapless and got a halter dress in the same fabric and color and it didn’t look weird at all. And that was way different than just removable straps!; You are going to have so many other stressfull incidents on your wedding planning journey, why turn this into one 🙂
Post # 5
I’m sorry, but if her comfort isn’t worth a slight difference in appearence from the other bridesmaids (spaghetti straps are tiny), then you should ask her to step down as a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
Let her wear straps, this is one of your closest friends/family and you should be trying to accomodate her as much as possible, within reason of course. How exciting for someone you’re close to, to be having a baby 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Straps or not, tell her she better load up those pad things in her nursing bra so she isn’t leaking all over the place
Post # 8
@cyansilverstar: You ask yourself what is more important to you- having her there or having all your BM’s in the exact same identical straples dress.
Post # 9
I’m sorry, but this is not an issue. Spaghetti straps are barely noticeable, and it’s pretty likely her breasts are going to be kind of ridiculous as far as size and sensitivity go if she is nursing. Please just be fine with the spaghetti straps, don’t make this into a problem when it totally shouldn’t be. Your friend’s comfort should really be prioritized over a tiny strip of fabric on her shoulders, even during the ceremony and pictures.
Post # 10
a) No one is going to notice.
b) What do straps have to do with leaking?
Post # 11
Let her wear the straps.
When i was breastfeeding i needed all the support i could get. With breastfeeding your breasts get engorged with milk are swollen and heavy. I don’t even know how she is going to manage to wear a strapless bra.
Post # 12
Nobody is going to be wondering why she has on straps.