(Closed) Help with Bridesmaids!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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7652 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You need to only have the people that won’t cause drama and are closest to you. Go onto the boards and read about how many gals picked girls just because they didn’t want to hurt feelings. They are all complaining about trying to “fire” their bridesmaid’s now. I think that would create worst feelings that just not having a few girls and telling them you are keeping it small and intimate. Maybe you can have them do something else?

Post # 4
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Newbee

@tinkstar:  It sounds like you’re thinking carefully about the pros and cons of asking each friend to be your bridesmaid.  That’s great.  Out of all the girls you’ve described, it seems to me that you do not want your drinking buddy from college to be in the wedding party.  Remember, being a bridesmaid is superfun, but also is a giant commitment of time, money, and initiative.

If you really think that your party friend will be offended if she isn’t included, you could ask her to act as an usher, or do a reading at your ceremony.  Ultimately, it’s your wedding, so if she’s gonna flake and you can’t rely on her, why have that wild card to deal with on your wedding day?

You might have a conversation with each of the people you’re considering for your bridal party.  You might be surprised.  Your friend who is watching her pennies might be relieved not to be a bridesmaid, even though she loves you, or she might be itching to be in your bridal party.  You have no idea, unless you talk to her.  Communicate with your girls and ask them if they would be able to make room in their schedules and checkbook to be included in your wedding.  

Post # 5
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Newbee

@tinkstar:  PS. Ain’t nothing wrong with only having two bridesmaids!!!  

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