(Closed) Help with Bridesmaids – Feeling Pressued!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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2804 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It sounds like there are other bridesmaids already… Is it possible to just not have either as a BM? I had a similar issue and my one problem other than choosing was that the other one would have to sit at a table where she wouldnt really know anyone. I left them both out of the bridal party so they could at least be together. Not choosing also meant I didn’t have to “rank” one friendship above the other.

Post # 3
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1301 posts
Bumble bee

Why do you need to have a set number of bridesmaids? Can’t you just ask them both?

Post # 5
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1301 posts
Bumble bee

Bridesmaids aren’t actually there to “help”. They are there to stand up with you on your day. That’s it. No parties, showers, manual labor duties, etc. If they offer to do that, great. But it’s not expected. So if you want your friends to be there with you on your wedding day, ask them. If you want them there as guests, that’s fine as well. And you don’t have to have even bride and groom parties. It truly does not matter.

Post # 6
Hostess
3985 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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ktbartlett:  I would only ask the friend you want.  Imagine dealing with Negative Nancy for the next year through all of your exciting moments.  I only would want the women that I am closest to and who are the most supportive by my side!

Post # 8
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160 posts
Blushing bee

If you put her in the wedding, you will be back on the Bee in a few months, asking for advice about your bad bridesmaid and how can you fix it. There’s looooots of posts on this. The best way to fix it? Don’t put her in the wedding to begin with. If you want an equal number in the bridal party, maybe check with your fiance to see if they can go down 1 to make it even without her. However, as much as I would caution you not to pick her to fill your last spot, I also suggest you don’t pick someone else you aren’t close to, just to fill the spot. Personally, I’d rather have my nearest and dearest than 4 bffs + 1 kind of friend. So maybe try to work around the numbers thing; it’ll just keep you more sane as you plan your big day and hopefully eliminate any drama.

Post # 9
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3231 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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ktbartlett:  So your friend was seeming down and ended up in tears…did you bother being a friend to her and finding out what was wrong or why she was upset? 

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