(Closed) Help with Bridesmaids!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Uneven parties can look more normal than you think especially now a days when brides have male attendants and grooms have female attendants. No one will know who’s who’s friend. I don’t recommend asking people you’re not comfortable with because honestly a wedding is a big commitment and a big expense. So asking someone that you’re not really close to to shell over about $200 puts both of you in an uncomfortable position. It’s best to be yourself when it comes to your wedding. You have a successful career, a great family life, a home, and you’re getting married. So what if you’re not a social butterfly? 

Post # 4
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Whatever you decide, don’t pick someone just for the sake of having even sides.  If you have someone close enough to you that you want included in your day, then ask them, otherwise, don’t ask anyone else.

Have you already asked your brother to stand up with your FI?  If not, just don’t include him in the wedding party and you’d have even sides.

Post # 5
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was in your shoes when I first got engaged too.  At first I was so worried about us having an equal number of attendants so the pictures would look symmetrical, but after a little while I didn’t care.  I realized that I only wanted the people that I truly love on my side with me.  So my fiance has 6 groomsmen and I have only 5 bridesmaids. It won’t matter! Only ask people that you truly love so that way no one feels awkward.  Your day will be beautiful even if the wedding party number is uneven!!!

Post # 7
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

First of all, uneven parties are not a big deal at all.  I had 4 and my husband had 5…didn’t look weird and I don’t think people even noticed.  I could have had more but I really only wanted the people closest to me.  I think you should reconsider having your brother on your side.  I don’t see a problem with having a guy stand up for you and I think it would be a very sweet gesture.

Post # 9
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66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think it’s great you came to a solution, but since you seem to really want even sides, I second MsMArzipan’s suggestion to have your brother on your side as a bridesman. That way you could each have 4 attendants.

My Darling Husband had a groomswoman, and given that I didn’t feel right choosing amongst my best friends (neither DH or I has a sister) I didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, so don’t feel you HAVE to ask someone! No one thought it was strange, no one questioned it, and when it came to toasts, each of my girls briefly said something, but I would have been fine if only one or none of them had spoken.

There are always options, don’t get so stuck in what you think other people will think! Do what you want!

Post # 10
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1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Christie: I totally agree with you!

Your Fiance could have his four, you could have your three, and then your brother could be you man of honor.  You’d have even sides, and since you already said your bro isn’t close to your Fiance and you don’t have someone to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, it sounds perfect.  Just look at Mrs. Barrettes with her man of honor!

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