Post # 1
Hey Bees, I need your help. The Fiance and I have started thinking about music for our September wedding.
First off, I don’t know how to order my ceremony. Its going to be a fairly quick (10-15 mins) non-religous outdoor casual backyard/garden style wedding.
This is what I was thinking (and I’m still confused on this):
2.) 2 Groomsmen, then Groom
3.) Families – Each of our grandmothers, then parents
4.) Bridesmaids (Well 2 Maid/Matron of Honor actually)
Does this order sound right?
Does the officent and groomsmen and groom come in without music and just come in from the side?
And who walks down to music? Does the officent and groomsmen? Does the groom walk down with music? Does the Family have music?
I’ve searched for an answer and I’m still confused as most seem to relate to church weddings, or they are so different, I don’t know what is “right”?
Also, how many songs do I need? One for groomsmen, one for family, one for bridesmaids then one for me? Since I only have 2 bridesmaids, would it be weird to have a song just for them as they will walk quite quickly as there is only 2 of them! I don’t want long gaps, and I don’t want to akwardly cut off a song either!
Or do I do one song for officent, groomsmen and family; one for 2 bridesmaids; then, one for me? Any thoughts would be appreciated!
Post # 2
I would have the officient walk first (or just be standing there) followed by the groom followed by parents (that’s 1 song). Then the groomsmen and the bridesmaids (that’s another song). Lastly, you (your bridal processional song)
Post # 3
Lily_of_the_valley: Thanks, somehow in my mind its weird to do Groom, then Family, then Groomsmen. I don’t know, maybe I’m looking at it differently.
If I did it this way, could the groomsmen and bridesmaids walk in seperately still?
Post # 4
Yes, or a better option could be:
Song 1: Officient, GROOM, groomsmen (i think the groom should walk first)
Song 2: Grandparents and parents, bridesmaids
Song 3: You
Post # 5
What I would probably do in your case if this were my wedding (note grandparents already seated with escorts from Groomsmen before ceremony starts):
Song 1 – Officiant
Song 1 -Groom
Song 1-Groomsmen 1 – Escorts Mother of Bride
Song 1 -Groomsmen 2 – Escorts Mother of Groom
Song 2- Maid/Matron of Honor 1
Song 2- Maid/Matron of Honor 2
Song 3- Bride
I think it depends on whether you want your groom/groomsmen/officiant standing at the front already or if you want them walking down the aisle to start the ceremony.
Sorry for all the edits, I hate the new formatting on the Bee!
Post # 6
Mez03: I know, I’m not a fan of the new formatting either!
To me the placement of the groomsmen is the most akward.
To have them standing up there while the family walks down seems strange. Then, in contrast it seems strange also to have the Groom stand a lone for a bit, then have family, then groomsmen and bridesmaids.
I’m not sure what to do there.
Maybe I need to do:
1. Officient (no music, or same music as family)
3. Groom, then groomsmen,
Post # 7
LoveLaceandWine: Maybe the best thing to do is youtube some entrances to see what you like the best. Maybe you could take a piece of paper, cut them into strips and write their names on it and play around with the order until you see what you like best. Obviously we know you’re coming in last but at least you can see where to place the groomsmen without it being awkward.
Since you say its a casual backyard/garden wedding, sometimes the officiant will come a bit early, maybe he/she can be standing at the front already so you won’t really need the music for him/her. Some people don’t even have the family come down the asile. All friends/family are sitting/standing and than the groom/groomsmen just walk down the aisle, than MOH’s, than ring bearer/flower girl (if having them), than bride. I would just do what seems the least awkward to you!
Post # 8
You can kind of do whatever you want. Traditionally the groom and his best man, and sometimes even all the groomsmen enter from the side with the officiant. Some people like when the groom formally walks too.
We have 3 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids. We are having all the guys enter from the side with the officiant (without music, before the ceremony starts), and then one song for the family, one song for the bridesmaids, and one song for the me and my dad. It’s not weird to have one song for just 2 people. They will walk slow, and there will be a little bit of a pause before you enter after them, however you could do the same song for your family and bridesmaids, or even the bridesmaids and yourself. It just all depends on what you want to do.
Post # 9
mgbser: Thanks. Its things like this that seem to rack my brain!
I think the Fiance wants to walk with music down the aisle. I don’t think he wants to enter from the side.. too formal? Not sure!
So, in keeping with what a previous post said, I will get him down there first or before the groomsmen at least.
Maybe Officient (no music), ..music starts…Groom (walking his grandmother down, who he is close to), his parents, my grandma, my parents. Then a new song for groomsmen and bridesmaids, anda new one for me.
Music starts.. family walks down. New song. Then groom, groomsmen. Bridesmaids. Then me.
I probably wouldn’t have thought much of this until closer to the date, but picking songs got me thinking early!