- 1 year ago
- Wedding: July 2019
I am American and my husband-to-be is Indian. We chose a venue that serves pretty typical Italian-American fare for dinner (e.g., eggplant rolatine, chicken francese). However, the venue has definitely had Indian weddings before, and we were given the contact cards of a few different Indian caterers. For sure, it seems like it won’t be a problem to make an Indian station at cocktail hour. However, we really don’t know what to do about dinner.
The standard for the venue is that they take orders tableside and do plated meals. It seems that most Indian weddings serve the food buffet style, though.
What have other folks had when they planned or attended an American/Indian fusion wedding? What was the food and how was it served?
We want, of course, to keep our costs reasonable. However, it is non-negotiable (for better or worse) that we must have both American and Indian food for dinner; we can’t pick only one. We realize we may have to spend a little more to make it happen, but we are trying to be as frugal as we can be!
1. Add or swap out some of the “American” choices on the plated dinner menu with simple Indian dishes (chicken, vegetarian). This may be hard because we don’t know how many people will want the Indian choices (and we have to buy certain quantities off the caterer).
2. Do a buffet style for everyone (mixing American and Indian choices). My understanding is that buffets are very unpopular among Americans, though. Well, especially my mom! She is very opposed! She thinks it’s unhygienic and also rude to make your guests wait in line. I’m sure some people probably share her opinion. Although I know my fiancé and I are the ones making the decision, I will always care about what my family thinks and prefers. I want everyone to be happy.
3. My friend came up with this idea: What about half plated and half buffet? Guests have the choice to order the 3-course meal off of the menu and get it served to you, OR, you can go to the buffet and get rice, naan, Indian dishes from the buffet. Has anyone ever seen this done at weddings? Is it even a thing? Our contact at the venue said it was possible, but I have no idea how much this would cost compared to the other options. Would we just end up paying for a lot in labor? Would the timing of when people eat get awkward? I liked this idea at first because it could keep buffet lines short, keep people who want to be served tableside also happy… But I just don’t know if it makes matters too complicated.
Does anyone have suggestions or advice? (Also, does plated really cost more than buffet, or is it the other way around? The Internet gives me different answers on this one!)
Thank you all so much, in advance!