(Closed) Help with Devil Cousins

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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983 posts
Busy bee

Have you considered a child free wedding as an option or is that out of the question?

Sometimes, in our minds, we are expecting the worst from people and/or kids in certain situations,  then everything ends up being just fine. You may be so busy with your special day that you may not even notice them. They may even be on their best behavior. It’s strange how kids react to different situations that they are in.  Speaking from a mom of 2! I’m always expecting the worst behavior from my kids when we are in certain situations or visiting certain people/locations, and they turn out to be complete angels.  Sometimes kids work like that.  You might want to give them the benefit of the doubt if you don’t plan a child free wedding.

Post # 4
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5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think you need to explain why you cannot not invite them for us to understand/provide feedback, 

Post # 6
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you should talk to your aunt and uncle. If that’s not an option talk to your parents and designate them to keep these devil children in line.  Personally, I have no patience for this and I think this kind of behavior would bring out the “bridezilla” in me.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureDrZ:  

Yeah, my sister gave me that idea (to designate) for everything to do with my wedding. This is mainly to avoid stress. Hope you can find somebody to help you out.

Post # 9
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1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Prepare the caterers.  Those serving hors d’oureves, instruct to only serve to adults. So kids running up for food, they will have to ask where their parent is and their parent will have to take the food from their tray. Tell them no ifs ands or buts. And if your aunt and uncle question it tell them there are allergy concerns and it’s an overall rule that must be abided.

Have a caterer stationed by the cheese station and any children must be accompanied by an adult. If they are taking more than their share, have the caterer tell them .. even jokingly… to take only what they’ll eat please.

 

And have a baby sitter there.. if they get out of control go to Aunt and Uncle and tell them you noticed they wanted time away from the kids (in other words they aren’t watching them) and are having the baby sitter take them into a designated room with (cheaper) snacks and activities.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Cindy, great idea, give the caterers a heads up.  Especially as it sounds as if the parents allow the kids to run amok.  It might cost another 50 or so, but maybe have a seperate kids appetizer area, off to the side. 

Post # 11
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureDrZ:  Trust me, the day of your wedding, you will not notice or care what the little shits are doing.  Not to mention, they’re kids – if they are acting like doofuses people will think “Kids being kids.”  Don’t worry about it.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Jemma, if they are making food inedible, or taking it all, yes people will notice.  If OP has to invite them, she needs to figure out a way to minimize disruption.

Post # 14
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680 posts
Busy bee

Sometimes even brats like these will behave (somewhat) when they are around strangers. I’m surprised these teenagers haven’t hit that super self-conscious stage yet where they want to be left alone and in a corner. I would forewarn the venue of their potential to upset the cocktail hour and seat them in a corner near the door so that they can run the butts outside if they can’t sit still.

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