(Closed) HELP with difficult girl…

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh dear. Hopefully reminding her about who will see this registry might change her mind. Maybe she’s thinking of the lingerie showers that are so common. I wouldn’t want anyone  to be buying me breast enhancers though.

Post # 4
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Awwww, the poor thing, I feel bad for her

Post # 5
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My only guess is that she is mixing up a lingerie shower or bachelorette party with her bridal registry, but wow! Is it too late for you to plan a themed shower? That way you could pick a traditional theme like an around the clock shower and then tell her "I didn’t want to ruin the surprise, but your shower has an around-the-clock theme. I noticed you haven’t registered for anything that will work for the daytime hours, so you might want to register for more things like kitchen or house stuff." That way she doesn’t have to remove the "evening" items if she doesn’t want to and it might spare her the embarrassment.

Post # 6
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Poor girl… Maybe you should have everyone bring gift cards or do a themed shower…Then while she is in town take her to the store and help her rigister for her wedding.  Jest be like "Hey I need to look at some stuff for our registry, would you like to come with me and fill up yours too?" Then direct her as you go….

Post # 7
695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hm, maybe just ask her what kind of shower she would like. Then, when she says a "regular one", since she is (bless her heart) clueless, just say ok, then that calls for this type of registry, ie one at Bed Bath and Beyond.

If she does say she is excited for a lingerie shower, maybe gently bring up the fact that those don’t have a registry and if her grandma does an online search for a wedding gift that she will find her lingerie wishlist, does she realize that? ๐Ÿ™‚

So basically tell her it is your job to let the guests know what size she is and what she wants if it is a lingerie shower and her job to make a BBB registry for her shower and wedding if otherwise.

Hope that helps and wasn’t confusing! Good luck! I have a feeling you’re going to have to remind her to send thank you notes too! 

Post # 8
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My standard answer for this one is invite her out for coffee and talk the wierd sitch out.  Maybe bring a printout of your registry or a friends?

Poor girl.  I am glad she’s got you in her corner!!!  Could you imagine if her granny came to the shower and she got that???

Even bachelorette parties don’t gift some of that stuff!

Post # 9
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Just tell her that you looked at the registery and saw what she had on there. Don’t act like she picked "odd things"…..just ask her like you are just "double checking to make sure…"   ๐Ÿ™‚

 Tell her that you looked and saw what she had. Tell her that you wanted to make sure you were throwing her the kinda shower she wants. Ask her is she wanted to have a lingeree shower. If she says yes…than just let it be.  But you could use that conversaton as a way of letting her know that she could register for more things if she didn’t wanna just have a lingeree shower. And tell her that grandma will see this registery ๐Ÿ™‚

Or maybe remind her that she doesn’t have to be shy about asking for too much and that she really CAN pick all types of differnt things….like cookware!  haha

Post # 10
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh my goodness this is hilarious. Please let us know what happens when you talk with her!

Post # 13
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

hahaha. I can’t wait. It sounds so entertaining. I bet her bachelorette party will be one crazy day!

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