Post # 17
Serve vegan; it meets vegetarians needs.
Fussy eaters need to be given the same as everyone else; they’re adults and can suck it up.
Harsh, perhaps, but TWO choices of meals is more than adequate for adults who should eat what they are given.
Post # 18
Yeah, even as a vegetarian, I think it’s totally unreasonable to expect you to do a vegetarian and a vegan option. Vegetarians will survive just fine without their dairy for one day, and they should appreciate that you’re trying to accomodate everyone.
I do know one vegan who had to just quit the vegan diet when travelling in Continental Europe. It just wasn’t possible, and I think most vegans will understand that if your french caterers are being difficult. I’m sure this isn’t the first time this has happened. Just see what you can do, and if all else fails, maybe there is a restaurant nearby that would deliver some takeout that evening? If you really can’t work anything out for them, just tell them and apologize. They will appreciate all your effort and generosity, and then just eat before they come. no big deal, and you shouldn’t attempt to cook it yourself on your wedding day!
Post # 19
I’d just do a vegan meal- I’m a vegetarian and do love dairy, but seriously, they can go one meal without it. I’m sure many of the meals they cook are almost vegan anyway, I know a lot of the food I cook has no dairy/eggs. Is it possible they’re imagining a bowl of tofu topped with beans and brocolli? There are tonnes of really nice vegan dishes and I’d bet your vegetarian guests wouldn’t even know that their risotto or pasta dish was vegan.
Can they seriously not go ONE meal without dairy?
You could serve a vegan dish and have the option to add cheese as a topping if it’s really THAT important for them to have dairy. Honestly I think they’re being a bit ridiculous about it though.
Post # 20
I agree that you should just serve a vegan meal. You are letting too many people’s opinions into this decision. It is ONE meal. The dairy lovers can hide some French cheese in their pockets if they can’t live without dairy for a few hours.
Post # 21
In my experience, vegans/fussy eaters know that it can be difficult to cater to them, and don’t have the highest expectations. We had 2 vegans at ours and somehow their vegan lasagna wasn’t served to them, both ate out of the buffet (including the totally un-vegan ravioli) and when I later apologized to them about it not being served they said they couldn’t care less. We also had a strict gluten-free paleo person and I thought we had options for her but in the end I walked by and saw she’d ordered a plate of lettuce with raw veggies on it, but complimented us how great the food was!
Don’t worry too much about it, and certainly don’t go the effort of cooking yourself. The one vegan meal should be fine.
Post # 22
@Shell222: Those are all dietary restrictions by choice. You didn’t mention any allergies or intolerances or religious restrictions. It’s your wedding and especially since you’re a foodie you shouldn’t be bending over backwards to accomodate A, B, and C.
Post # 23
Which one outnumbers the other? Thats how i’d figure it out. Thankfully everyone in my family eats meat so no alternative plan there!
Post # 24
@Aquaria No religious restrictions but one of the vegans is allergic to a certain ingredient, which is a very good point as I thought about doing a fruit salad for them and it would need to be emitted.
My friends would be mortified if they knew I was stressing so much about this!
Post # 25
Maybe I’m just being dumb, but why do the vegetarians need a meal with dairy? Is it because they are the kind of vegetarians that don’t actually like vegetables and eat a lot of cheese and eggs instead? Or is it because they want take full advantage of the French cooking while they are there? (If that’s the case, surely they will be eating other meals during the weekend of their own choosing and they will have other chances to have traditional French cooking?)
And why is your Maid/Matron of Honor refusing to come if your prepare her vegan meal yourself?
Your guests are being ridiculous.
Post # 26
I agree with other vegetarians/vegans here. We are former vegans, now pescaterians, and honestly, Darling Husband and I would be happy with any meal that showed some thought (so NOT a plain green salad with just EVOO) and didn’t contain meat products. I would never be so presumptuous, as a vegetarian, to say that I don’t want the vegan meal, and as a vegan, I understand that sometimes things happen, and if butter/dairy happened to make it into my meal, it’s just one. It’s not like a whole steak landed in there. This is assuming they are not extremely lactose-intolerant. I don’t see while a vegetarian can’t eat a vegan meal for one meal. Even as a pescatarian, I’ve eaten vegan meals, vegetarian meals and even raw meals and it’s fine.
Post # 27
@beachbride1216: this was my exact thought.
Post # 28
I’m a omnivore and I would be perfectly happy with a vegan meal. The veggies and sweet potatoes roasted in olive oil thing OP mentioned sounds YUMMY!
Post # 29
Uhhh… I’m a vegetarian and I say that the vegetarians need to suck it up and eat the vegan meal. I think it’s completely ridiculous that they are giving you a hard time about the meal option. As long as there is something there that they can eat, you have done your job as a gracious hostess.
Post # 30
It’s one meal, the vegan meal will be completely appropriate for the vegetarians. They don’t get to demand a vegetarian option with dairy as well just because they like it. I like lobster, scallops, tuna, anyone who invites me to their wedding better have those because I like them! I like the idea of an adult sized portion of the child’s meal for picky eaters, that way they get a meal and you still get your foodie options.
Post # 31
Definitely give the veges vegan food. They can suck it up for ONE meal. If it’s delicious they hopefully won’t notice.
- Grilled vegetables in phyllo with medditerranean cous cous and aged balsamic
- Fried polenta cakes with grilled vegetables and a roasted red pepper sauce
- Pumpkin ravioli with sage & toasted hazelnuts
Sure there is no cheese but as a meat eater I would be happy with those dishes.