Post # 1
Ok so you can read the whole previous story here:
but I will try to summarize. My friend recently got married (about 2 months ago) to a woman I have never met who he has been on and off for about 2 or so years. They got married in a tiny cerimony overseas (family only) so obviously I didn’t go. He lives in a different city (she currently lives overseas) so I have not seen either of them since they got married.
Of course as he is a friend I waned to send a gift and card, but could not decide on a gift, so I have not sent it Yet.
Now here is the strange part: I’ve spoken to him a couple of times over the last couple of weeks, and things are really not going well with them. He says thy are sperated and he plans to think about it for a while, but thinks they will divorce.
So do I send a gift?
i also don’t want him to think I didn’t think of him or something. Maybe I just send a gift for him – something he would like, not weddingy or for the house at all? And no wedding card?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Wait. You have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift.
Post # 4
@WestCoast: What about a wedding card and like, a gift card? To a store he could shop at and still use if in fact the marraige fails. That is kind of a sticky situation. But I think that may be the best way to send a gift that they can either use together, or he could use on his own. Good luck!
EDIT: If he has told you that the marraige is not going well and he doesnt think it will work, maybe take him out for drinks on you and call it his congratulations on your wedding, or divorce, party?! I have a few friends that would like that a lot better than a gift. lol!
Post # 5
@WestCoast: I wouldn’t send a gift or a card, he has told you that things aren’t going well so I think its better to not bother at this point.
Post # 6
Don’t send a gift yet, he’ll get it and be like “was she seriously not listening to me?” just wait a while longer.
Post # 7
yeah I know it’s not too late, but what about with them being seperated?
I also don’t want to bring the marriage thing up too much as it makes him upset 🙁
Post # 8
lol yeah, that’s kind of what I was thinking with just sending a gift like “thinking of you” because I’m not there to take him out :). Thanks!
Post # 9
yeah and I figure it might be upsetting to open a congratulations on your marriage card when he is separated 🙁
Post # 10
I wouldn’t send a gift.
He has told you over the phone that things aren’t going to plan, a gift now would just be weird.
He knows you are thinking of him – you called him right?
Post # 12
yes, I have called. I can always take him out when I see him next… Thanks!