(Closed) HELP with Invitation Wording

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I change the wording or keep it how it is?
    Change it : (3 votes)
    60 %
    Keep it the way it is : (2 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    blushblossom91:  if this is the only time you will be writing her as mrs. husbands name, then she will get over it!

    It’s your invitation after all 🙂

    and why would she be so against it/bother her if she is indeed still has her  husbands surname? WHOOPS  WELL cock i missed that bit!

    I agree with the post under me, mrs. washington-[      ]

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by  Amerie27.
    Post # 4
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    blushblossom91:  ps for some reason it does that to me as well.. computer illerates hahahah!!!!!! 😛

    Post # 5
    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee

    blushblossom91:  could you just have exactly what you have there but replace ‘Mr and Mrs George Washington’ for ‘Mr George Washington and Mrs Washington-MaidenName’? 

    I’m no etiquette expert but that’s the way I would do it. Leave your parents as is because your mum has fully taken your father’s name and is fine with being addressed like that. 

    Post # 7
    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Because you said that you are having a traditional wedding and that you want a traditional invitation, I would make the following changes:

    lowercase “r” in “request” <br />lowercase the “a” in “at” <br />make sure that before FI’s full name, you add his title, “Mr.”<br />instead of “On the eighteenth of April” it should read “Saturday, the eighteenth of April”<br />omit “and” from the date — “two thousand fifteen”<br />the time should read “at half after five o’clock”

    If your venue is not a house of worship, “honor of your presence” is not acceptable. It should read “request the pleasure of your company”

    “Reception to follow” is only included if the reception is at the same location as the ceremony, immediately following.

    You do not include the venue’s entire address. Only the city/state.

    So with these corrections it should read like so:

    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

    request the pleasure of your company (unless in a house of worship)

    at the marriage of their daughter

    Jane Elizabeth


    Mr. Holden Caulfield

    son of Mr. and Mrs. Johnathan Caulfield

    Saturday, the eighteenth of April

    at half after five o’clock in the evening

    Venue Name

    City, State

    Reception to follow (only if the reception is taking place at the same place as the ceremony)


    Post # 8
    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    duplicate post

    Post # 9
    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    blushblossom91:  Sorry, weddingbee messed up my spacing, too! Hopefully those reviions are clear.

    Also, if your FI has a title other than “Mr.” include that before his name (like “Doctor”)

    Post # 10
    4062 posts
    Honey bee

    blushblossom91:  “… I just sent the draft wording to my FMIL today and she commented that this would be the only time that she would be addressed as “Mrs. George Washington”. She has a hyphenated name, and has never liked being called Mrs. Husband’s Name.”


    This is probably one of the reasons why so many invitations these days are issued with the phrase “together with their parents.”

    I was married 37 years ago and never changed my name. Both our daughter’s wedding invitations (formal/black-tie) were issued with my husband’s full name first and my full name second. (Our daughter’s have hyphenated last names, Father-Mother). If your FMIL has only ever used a hyphenated name, which I’m assuming IS her legal name, and doesn’t like being referred to as Mrs. Husband, I think you should honor her choice, not challenge it.

    Traditionally, invitations were only issued with the bride’s parents names, anyway, because they were usually the hosts.

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