Post # 1
I am the MOH in my best friends wedding next month. She has asked me to give a toast/speech and said it could be around 2 minutes long. I hate public speaking, so this is honestly terrifying to me. Any advise would be appreciated.
Hi everyone! I hope you’re all having a wonderful time, and I’d like to thank all of you for coming out and celebrating with us tonight.
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is ____. I’m the maid of honor and the friend of the bride.
The first time I met ____ was in the third grade. We didn’t talk for almost a year after that, so I never thought that I would be standing here 14 years later watching her marry the man of her dreams.
When ____ and I were young, we would “plan” our dream weddings. It’s kind of embarrassing to think about now, but we would cut out pictures from magazines, sketch our dresses, and imagine how we wanted our special day to go. Over the years, our “plans” would change, but nothing could have prepared us for the joy and love that is here right now.
____, it’s tough to describe just how much you mean to me and to try to summarize everything into one toast. I will say this though- you have been an amazing friend. You have always been there for me and supported me, and I want you to know that I will always be there for you.
You two make a great couple, and I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness together.
If everyone could please raise their glass and let’s toast to the new Mr. and Mrs. ___. Congratulations.
Post # 2
Sounds great to me bee. It probably will be much shorter than 2 minutes, but I would err on the shorter side anyways if you hate public speaking.
Post # 3
I would keep it under 2 minutes. What you have so far is nice, but I would personalise it a bit more to the couple. Talk about the qualities that drew you to your friend and how her now-husband radiates those same qualities / makes her shine even brighter / etc. “You make a great couple” is pretty generic and impersonal and says nothing about him. I assume that you are quite fond of him as well and are happy that she chose him as her partner?
Post # 4
I agree with sboom that it’s a great start but you should add something a bit more personal about who she is marrying. I know it may be hard if you don’t know him super well (not sure what your situation is!)
For example, when I was my best friend’s maid of honor, I very briefly shared the story of when I met her now-husband in person for the first time (he ran right up and hugged me so hard he lifted me off my feet LOL they’re both extremely friendly and touchy-feely people haha) and used that to transition into explaining how I could tell right away they were such a perfect match and how well their personalities compliment each other and all that. 🙂
So I’d definitely say you should maybe throw something a bit personal about the groom/their relationship in there too. But it doesn’t have to be much more than what you have there. 🙂
Post # 5
One thing I have noticed that annoys the hell out of me is that a lot of Maid/Matron of Honor speeches tend to be all “you’re my best friend and I love you so much! We’ve had such great times! Here’s to you!” and not about the *couple* and their wedding at all. The speeches should be focused on the union you’re all there to celebrate, not the relationship of the speech giver to one half of the couple.
I love that you shared the first time you met him – that’s awesome.
Post # 6
I’ll echo PP and suggest adding something about the groom. It’s always noticeable when a best man or maid of honor only talks about their own friend. If you don’t know him well, maybe you can talk about how he makes her happy etc. You could tie in the dream wedding this with him being a dream groom.
And for what it’s worth, my dad is a retired speech writer and says 90 seconds is perfect for a toast, so don’t worry if it’s a little shorter than two minutes!
Post # 7
Looks great so far, short and sweet! I agree with PPs that just a touch more personalization/anecdotal stuff might help. Literally just a few more sentences would be fine.
Can you say anything more about how you met and became friends or your friendship?
– Why didn’t you talk for a year after you met?
– What was it that brought you two together?
– If there isn’t any story around not speaking for a year after that I’d just leave that part out and say you met in third grade.
Then as others have said, a note about the groom and their relationship. It can be anything noteworthy, sweet or funny.
-What was different about him from the other guys she dated?
-Was there something she said about him that made you see how much she loved him?
-Anything noteworthy about the first time you met him?
Post # 8
I wouldn’t change anything. I think its sweet and short but still personal. You could maybe add a paragraph about her spouse, but I wouldn’t be disappointed if you gave that speech for me.
Post # 9
Thank you everyone!
The problem is… I honestly don’t know the groom super well. I mean, I have obviously met him many times, but it isn’t often where we will all be hanging out together. So it’s difficult for me to think of something personal to include about him.
Post # 10
The bride and I used to work together (many many years ago) at McDonald’s. Before they really started dating, Groom came in, surprised her, and asked her to homecoming. I remember how excited she was about that.
Could I somehow tie that story in for the story about them?
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
speak about when you found out about the groom. hjow excited your friend was, how she told you that he was the one.
when I was Maid/Matron of Honor my bestie (bride) and I had only seen another once every year or so since school, as she joined the navy. which is where she met him. so I barely met him.
my speech I spoke a out how I met up with them at home one time and we took hhim horse riding. I made a bit of a joke of how badly he was riding (horses are a big thing in our lives) but that I saw her face full of adoration and I KNEW she was going to be with this sailor for along time!
that way I was able to focus on the couple even though he and I weren’t super close.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
btw everything in your speech was great! I wouldn’t take anything out!